Feeling Average
I’m in Year 10 and preparing to take my IGCSEs this year. I’m involved in three extracurricular activities, but I don’t hold any leadership roles. No matter how many positions I apply for, I never seem to get them, while my friends are landing great opportunities. Academically, I don’t feel great either—I’m struggling in math and just scraping by in Chinese. I do okay in my other subjects, but I’m not excelling in anything.
My friends keep telling me it’s fine and that I still have time, but I can’t shake this insecurity. I’m not particularly good at sports either, and it feels like everyone around me is engaged in something impressive, whether it’s academics, the arts, sports, or leadership. I’m really worried about applying to universities and not being accepted into the ones I want. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this, especially since my sister is an overachiever. Just needed to vent for a moment.
It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time, and it’s completely normal to feel insecure when comparing yourself to others. Remember, everyone has their own strengths and paths, even if they look different from what you see in your friends. It’s okay to not excel in every area; what’s important is finding what you enjoy and what you’re passionate about.
Try to focus on your own journey rather than comparing yourself to others. It might help to set smaller, achievable goals for yourself, whether in academics or extracurriculars. This way, you can track your progress and celebrate your own accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem.
As for university applications, remember that they look at the whole person, not just grades and leadership roles. Your unique experiences and interests can also make a strong impression. It’s never too late to find something you really enjoy and develop that into a strength.
Lastly, it might be helpful to connect with someone you trust—a friend, teacher, or counselor—who can provide support and guidance. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and talking about it can really help. Hang in there!