Transitioning to a New School
Our 7-year-old son has recently changed schools, and he’s having a tough time adjusting. He misses his old friends immensely.
While his new school offers so much more than his previous one, I know he’s not seeing it that way right now. I feel confident in our decision, but I’m definitely worried about how he’s coping and his rising anxiety. The guilt is real—ugh!
How long does it typically take for kids to acclimate? Will he be expressing his dislike for the new school for the next five years? 😅 Will things improve over time?
I would really appreciate any advice on how to support him through this transition.
Thank you!
It’s completely understandable to feel worried about your son’s adjustment to a new school, especially at such a young age. Transitions can be really challenging for kids, and it’s natural for him to miss his old friends and environment.
Every child adjusts at their own pace, so it’s hard to predict exactly how long it will take for him to feel comfortable in his new setting. It might take weeks or even a few months for him to settle in and start making new friends. The important thing is to stay supportive and patient during this time.
Here are some tips that might help your son with the transition:
Listen and Acknowledge Feelings: Let him express his feelings about missing his old school and friends. Validate his feelings by letting him know it’s okay to feel upset and that many children go through this.
Encourage New Connections: Help him find common interests with classmates, whether it’s sports, hobbies, or other activities. You could also arrange playdates with other kids to encourage friendships.
Stay Positive: Share the good things about the new school in a fun way—like interesting clubs, events, or activities he can look forward to.
Routine and Stability: Having a consistent daily routine can provide comfort and a sense of stability, especially during times of change.
Communicate with Teachers: Keep an open line of communication with his teachers. They can provide support at school and share their observations about how he’s adjusting.
Focus on the Present: Help him focus on the positive aspects of his new environment rather than constantly comparing it to the old one.
Be Patient: Understand that feelings of anxiety or discomfort may arise from time to time, but with your support, he will likely find his footing.
It’s normal for kids to express frustration during this transition, but with time and encouragement, he’s likely to adapt. Remember, you’re not alone in this, and seeking support from other parents or a counselor can also be beneficial. You’re doing a great job by being attentive to his needs!