Transitioning from Homeschool to Public School
I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, but I’m a homeschooler getting ready to start public school for my freshman year of high school (my parents’ decision).
I struggle with severe social anxiety, which has escalated to the point where I experience panic attacks in crowded situations. My parents believe this is partly due to being homeschooled and feel they made a mistake by limiting my social interactions. The panic attacks really intensified toward the end of 7th grade, but they decided to wait for high school so I could start fresh alongside other freshmen. While I appreciate that they chose this route rather than mid-middle school, I’m still anxious about being labeled as the “weird homeschooled kid.” I don’t have any friends from public school right now, so I worry that I’ll be navigating everything alone.
The school my parents want me to attend is having an open house in two days, and I’ve been feeling overwhelmed since they announced it. I knew this transition was coming, but it didn’t feel real until now—and honestly, it terrifies me. My only understanding of high school comes from movies, and everyone tells me it’s not like that at all. The thought of being around other teens every day seems exhausting (I genuinely admire how public schoolers manage it), and the presence of older students—some up to four years ahead of me—makes me even more anxious.
Sorry for rambling! I tend to be long-winded. I’d love to hear from those of you who have gone through public school. Any tips or insights about what it’s like would be really appreciated! Thanks for taking the time to read this.
First of all, I want to say that it’s totally understandable to feel anxious about such a big change. Transitioning from homeschooling to public school can be daunting, especially with social anxiety involved. It’s okay to feel nervous; you’re not alone in this!
Here are a few tips that might help you navigate this new experience:
Take Small Steps: If the open house feels overwhelming, try to set small goals for yourself. Maybe aim to just meet one new person or talk to a teacher. You don’t have to do everything at once.
Prepare a Few Questions: Before the open house, think about a few questions you can ask teachers or students. This will give you something to focus on and help break the ice.
Buddy Up: If possible, see if you can make a friend during the open house. You might find someone else who is also nervous, and you can support each other.
Take Breaks When Needed: It’s completely okay to step away for a moment if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Find a quiet spot where you can take a few deep breaths before heading back in.
Find Your Tribe: Once school starts, consider joining clubs or activities that interest you. This is a great way to meet people with similar interests, which can make forming friendships a little easier.
Communicate with Your Parents: Keep an open line of communication with your parents about how you’re feeling. They can provide support and may help you find resources, like a school counselor, to help with your anxiety.
Remember, It’s a Learning Experience: Everyone is adjusting to high school in their own way, so you’re not alone in feeling out of place. Many students are also looking to make friends and find their footing.
As for what public school is like, it varies a lot from school to school, but many people find it to be a supportive environment. There’s a diverse range of people and plenty of opportunities to learn and grow, both academically and socially. Try to keep an open mind about the experience; it might surprise you!
Lastly, don’t hesitate to seek out resources or support for your anxiety. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it. You’ve got this, and I believe you’ll find your way!