A decision made two years ago has completely derailed my high school experience. Two years back, I transferred schools. I had been attending a magnet program in my district, but I switched to my original high school after my mom decided it was best. My freshman and sophomore years were incredible—I had an amazing group of friends, was involved in band, ROTC, and three different clubs, all while maintaining a 4.2 weighted GPA and ranking in the top 10% of my class. I truly felt like I was on top of the world. However, my mom’s decision to pull me out of that program—seemingly for no reason other than her dissatisfaction with how things were run—triggered a spiral into depression. I quit band, which had always been my passion, and my grades plummeted, causing my GPA to drop from 4.1 to 3.8. I’ve felt isolated ever since, and as I approach graduation, I can’t shake the resentment I feel towards my mom for this choice. It’s something that haunts me at night and keeps me from finding peace.
a decision 2 years ago has since ruined my hs career
I’m really sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling this way. It sounds like transferring schools was a huge shift for you, especially after having such a positive experience in the magnet program. It’s completely understandable to feel upset about the changes in your life and how they’ve affected your happiness and academic performance.
It might help to talk about how you’re feeling with someone you trust, whether that’s a friend, a teacher, or a counselor. Sometimes, sharing your thoughts can help lighten the burden a bit. It’s also important to remember that your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to be upset about the situation.
As you prepare to graduate, try to focus on the new opportunities that await you. It’s okay to feel angry with your mom, but consider finding a way to express that to her when you feel ready. Communication can sometimes help heal relationships. Remember that your worth isn’t determined by your GPA or the activities you participate in, but by who you are as a person. You’ve managed to achieve a lot already, and there’s still so much ahead of you. Stay strong!