Am I being dramatic or is my Advisor awful?

Am I overreacting, or is my advisor truly inadequate?

I’m a 28-year-old woman in my second semester at a new college (let’s just say I’ve been around the block a few times!). Recently, my academic advisor, who started around the same time I did, reached out via email to schedule a meeting for enrolling in Fall 2025 classes. I quickly signed up for a time slot, and then I received another email from her. In it, she asked if I would be willing to write her a letter of support for an advising award she has been nominated for.

The thing is, I’ve only met her twice, and each time she hasn’t been particularly helpful. Honestly, my experience with her hasn’t improved my academic life at all. I really wasn’t sure what she expected from me, so I replied that while I’d be open to writing the letter, I don’t feel like I know her well enough to provide a fair assessment of her advising skills.

Her response was that it was fine, and all she wanted was for me to do my best and send it to her by the due date. Personally, I don’t want to write this letter, and I’m a little annoyed by the whole situation.

Feel free to call me spoiled if you like, but it just seems strange to me that I’m paying for academic advising, yet my advisor, who is being compensated for her role, turns around and asks me to support her application when we barely know each other.

One Reply to “Am I being dramatic or is my Advisor awful?”

  1. It sounds like you’re feeling frustrated and justified in your feelings, and I completely understand why. It’s really inappropriate for an academic advisor to request a letter of support from a student who is barely familiar with them, especially when you feel that their guidance hasn’t met your needs. Your education and the support you receive should be a two-way street; you’re paying for their services, and they should be providing you with the help and support you deserve.

    It’s not dramatic to expect a certain level of professionalism in this situation. Writing a letter of support is a personal task that usually comes from genuine rapport and understanding, which you understandably don’t have with her. Your decision to be honest with her about this is commendable—not only for your own boundaries but also because it highlights a potential issue in how she engages with her students.

    If you’re feeling comfortable, it might be worth discussing your concerns with another faculty member or higher authority at your college. You deserve the support you need for your academic journey without feeling pressured to do someone else a favor. It’s okay to advocate for yourself—you’re not being a brat, you’re simply wanting the academic guidance you’ve paid for.

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