My parents don’t see the value in extracurricular activities. They believe that if I focus on studying hard and maintaining good grades, I’ll have no trouble getting into any college I want. I’ve tried explaining that it’s not that simple—colleges look for well-rounded candidates who engage in extracurriculars and achievements beyond academics. Instead of supporting my involvement in these activities, they seem to actively discourage it. They refuse to drive me to volunteer opportunities, club events, or anything else that might enrich my life (but they’ll happily drive 26 miles to go out to eat). They’ve even discouraged me from pursuing awards that I know I could earn, like the PVSA. Yet, they still get upset when I’m home and “not doing anything.” What am I supposed to do? I can’t help but feel envious of kids whose parents encourage them to join sports and other fun activities.
My parents don’t believe in extracurriculars
It sounds really frustrating to feel stuck between what you know is important for your future and your parents’ beliefs. It’s great that you recognize the value of extracurriculars, not just for college applications but also for personal growth and making connections. Have you tried having another conversation with them, perhaps focusing on how these activities could help you develop skills that will benefit you in your studies and career? It might help to emphasize the benefits of extracurriculars beyond just college admissions, like leadership opportunities, social connections, and stress relief.
If getting them on board feels impossible, maybe you could start small. Look for activities that are closer to home or less demanding in terms of transportation. You might also explore virtual clubs or volunteer opportunities that can fit into your family’s schedule. Remember, it’s okay to feel jealous—it’s normal to want what others have. Just try to stay focused on your own path; college is just one part of your journey, and your unique experiences can still shape who you are. You’ve got this!