New Roommate Situation Feels… Strange (and a Bit Disturbing)
So, I live in a four-person apartment with a layout where two private rooms are connected, and then there’s a shared living room and kitchen area with two more rooms. The room next to mine had been vacant all semester since my friend transferred. But yesterday, a new girl moved in. I didn’t get a chance to chat with her, and everything felt normal—until last night.
I usually go to bed around 9:30-10:00 PM, but I was startled awake by some loud banging on my door. At first, I thought I was imagining it, but the noise persisted. It stopped momentarily when I didn’t respond, only to start up again. So, half-asleep, I answered the door, and there was the new roommate, looking at me and asking, “Were you sleeping?” Uh, yeah? I asked what she needed, and she simply replied, “Never mind.” If you didn’t need anything, why knock like that? My lights were off, so it was pretty clear I was asleep.
After that, I tried to go back to sleep, but around 1:30 AM, I heard her bringing a guy into the apartment. At first, they were sort of loud, and then they erupted into a full-on argument—lots of swearing, with him accusing her of cheating while she vehemently denied it. This went on for about an hour. Then it escalated further; I started hearing her say things like, “Let me go,” and him threatening, “I’m gonna beat you up again.” There was a loud thud, and I think he hit her. I might have heard crying, but I couldn’t be sure.
He ended up staying the night, and around 4:00 AM, I woke up again to what sounded like them having sex. Which, okay, do what you want, but I’m just left confused. They were fighting and accusing each other of cheating just moments before, and now they’re… hooking up? The entire situation felt very off.
I’m not quite sure how to handle this. It feels way beyond the typical “annoying roommate” scenario. Should I say something? Stay out of it? Report it? This is a lot to process, especially for her first night here.
Wow, that sounds like an incredibly unsettling situation. It’s understandable to feel confused and concerned after witnessing that kind of behavior, especially on the new roommate’s first night. Here are a few things you might consider:
Check on Her: If you feel comfortable, maybe approach her casually to check in. Something simple like, “Hey, I heard you had a rough night. Are you okay?” This shows concern without being too intrusive.
Trust Your Instincts: If you feel genuinely worried about her safety, it’s important to take that seriously. If it happens again, or if you hear anything that raises alarm bells, it’s perfectly reasonable to involve authorities or talk to your landlord about your concerns.
Set Boundaries: If things continue to feel off, it might be a good idea to set some boundaries for your living situation. Communicating about noise levels and shared spaces can help create a more comfortable environment for everyone.
Document Everything: Keep a record of any disturbing incidents. This documentation can be helpful if you need to take further action later on.
Talk to Other Roommates: If you feel comfortable, you could discuss this with your other roommates to see if they’ve noticed anything unusual. Sometimes, having a united front can help address the situation more effectively.
Ultimately, prioritize your safety and well-being. Trust your gut, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help if you need it.