Why do people act so judgmental?

Why are people so judgmental? It feels like school is full of critics over the most trivial things. Everyone seems to follow the herd, doing what’s deemed “cool” or socially acceptable. If you stray even a little from that norm, people are quick to mock you, even if it’s not that odd. Yet, the moment a silly trend pops up, everyone jumps on board.

Just the other day at lunch, I witnessed a group of guys at another table chanting “chug” while one of them was drinking. Sure, it was a bit cringe and cliché, but it wasn’t hurting anyone. Meanwhile, the guys at my table couldn’t help but make snarky comments like, “Wow, they’re so serious,” and “Are they really chanting chug?” I found myself wondering: why does it even matter? Why do people feel the need to put others down for something harmless?

It’s as though everyone is afraid to step out of line, even in the simplest situations. Striking up a conversation with someone you don’t usually talk to shouldn’t feel like breaking an unspoken rule. People act like they’re too cool to be friendly, while many are glued to their phones with AirPods in, completely disengaged. Yet, if you attempt to be social, you’re met with judgment as if you’re the odd one out.

Now, I get that some things can be genuinely weird—like coming to school with cat ears and meowing. But there’s a vast difference between that and just being a little silly. Why is having fun or being a bit outgoing seen as cringey? It would be great if people could let their guards down and stop being so judgmental.

Anyone else resonate with this feeling?

One Reply to “Why do people act so judgmental?”

  1. I totally get what you’re saying! It can be so frustrating to see people being judgmental over things that really don’t matter. School can create this weird pressure to conform to certain norms, and it often feels like everyone is more focused on fitting in than just enjoying themselves.

    The idea that “coolness” is tied to being closed off or mocking others is really counterproductive. Everyone has their quirks, and those little differences are what make each of us unique. It’s sad that stepping outside the box can lead to ridicule instead of acceptance, especially when being genuine and friendly shouldn’t feel like a risky move.

    And you’re right about the contradiction; everyone is glued to their phones, yet they act like talking to someone in person is out of the question. It’s like people are scared to show vulnerability or let loose because they fear judgment. I guess it comes down to a mix of social anxiety and the need to fit in.

    It would be amazing if more people would just embrace the goofy moments! Life’s too short to be worried about what others think. Being outgoing and having fun shouldn’t be seen as cringey—it’s just part of being young! Thanks for sharing your thoughts; it’s nice to know others feel the same way!

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