Withdrawing from Classes Due to Family Issues – Do I Have to Repay My Grants?
I’m currently in my second semester at a private university. I attended classes for the first three weeks of this semester, but then I stopped going due to a combination of needing to care for my disabled mom, who has been struggling, and my own severe depression—I was in such a dark place that I didn’t even recognize it as depression at the time. I didn’t tell my mom that I stopped attending classes; I was neither partying nor having fun—just stuck in my dorm room. During Spring Break, I finally broke down and confided in her.
I receive significant financial aid, including Pell Grants, Cal Grants, institutional grants, and scholarships. Now I’m feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about what to do. Even if I return and do my utmost to get perfect scores, I will likely still end up failing my classes.
If I attempt to withdraw due to my family circumstances and my mental health struggles, I worry that the school will demand I repay all the grant and scholarship money since I only attended for three weeks. My mom is on disability, and we simply don’t have the funds; it could even lead her to bankruptcy.
Classes start on Monday, and I’m at a loss. Should I go back and risk failing, which might allow us to keep whatever financial aid we still have? I’m less concerned about my grades or scholarships at this moment and more focused on the implications for all the federal and institutional aid.
I’ve come to recognize my prolonged depression—though I haven’t seen a therapist yet, so I don’t have any documentation to support it. I can see now how my inability to engage in anything beneficial—my lack of interest in food or socializing—has stemmed from my denial of my mental health state. We are planning to find someone for me to talk to, but I need advice on how to navigate the situation at school on Monday. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated!
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such a tough time. First and foremost, it’s important to prioritize your mental health and your family’s needs. Here are a few steps you can consider taking:
Speak with Academic Advisors: Reach out to your academic advisor or student services as soon as possible. They may have experience with students in similar situations and can help guide you through the withdrawal process. Be honest about your circumstances.
Withdrawal for Medical/Personal Reasons: Many universities have policies in place that allow for withdrawal due to medical or personal reasons. If you explain your situation, especially regarding your mother’s health and your own mental health struggles, they might be able to help you navigate this without having to pay back all your grant money.
Financial Aid Office: Contact the financial aid office to discuss your options. They can provide clarity on what withdrawing means for your grants and scholarships. Depending on your university’s policies, there may be options for you to avoid having to repay funds if you can demonstrate extenuating circumstances.
Document Your Situation: While you haven’t seen a therapist yet, gathering any supporting documentation about your family’s situation could be important. If you can, talk to a healthcare provider about your mental health; even if you don’t have records yet, seeking help will show you’re taking steps to address your concerns.
Focus on Self-Care: Your well-being is the most critical aspect right now. Make sure you are taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically. Finding a therapist or counselor is a great first step.
Plan for the Future: If you decide to withdraw, start thinking about community colleges or other options that can help you build up your skills and mental health without the added pressure.
Talk to Your Mom: Now that you’ve broken the ice, keep the lines of communication open with your mom. She may have insights or support that can help both you and her through this trying time.
Whatever you decide, remember that your mental health and well-being are priorities. Good luck, and take care of yourself!