Advice About Friendships
Hey everyone, I could really use some advice. I’m currently friends with three girls, but one of them has been really condescending towards me. Instead of talking things out, she chose to report me, and she often mocks me with sarcasm. The other girl in their group is quiet and mostly just goes along with what she says. However, there’s one girl who is genuinely nice, and I can tell she’s different from the other two.
The problem is that I don’t know how to distance myself from the two more negative friends since the nice girl hangs out with them too. I’m fairly new to the school and have been here for about 4-5 weeks. While I have a few other friends in different classes, these three are my main circle, and it’s really upsetting to deal with the negativity from one girl, especially since it doesn’t seem to bother her.
I’m also in almost all my classes with her, so it’s hard to avoid the situation. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
It sounds like you’re in a really tough situation, and it’s understandable to feel upset when a friend is treating you poorly. Here are a few steps you might consider:
Reflect on Your Feelings: Take some time to think about how this girl’s behavior affects you. Recognizing your feelings is important, as it can help you determine the best way to approach the situation.
Talk to the Nice Girl: Since you mentioned that one of the girls is nicer, perhaps you can build a stronger friendship with her. If you feel comfortable, you could express how you’re feeling and see if she can offer support or advice.
Set Boundaries: If the condescending behavior continues, it’s okay to set boundaries with that girl. You don’t have to tolerate disrespect. If you feel safe doing so, you can address her behavior directly, letting her know how it makes you feel.
Focus on Other Friendships: Since you mentioned you have a couple of other friends, it might be helpful to spend more time with them. Building relationships outside of that dynamic can be a great way to find support.
Talk to a Trusted Adult: If things don’t improve or if you feel uncomfortable addressing the situation, consider talking to a teacher or counselor. They can provide guidance and may help mediate the situation.
Stay True to Yourself: Lastly, remember to stay true to who you are. Surround yourself with people who respect you and lift you up. Friendships should be mutual and supportive, and it’s okay to distance yourself from negative influences.
Making new friends can take time, but don’t be afraid to explore other social circles. You deserve to be around people who appreciate and support you!