How can I get a reference if I’ve never spoken to my professors?
Hi everyone,
I’m feeling really anxious right now because my study abroad program requires references from an academic advisor and another academic tutor. I’m only in my second semester of freshman year, and I’ve never been to office hours or spoken to my professors outside of class—I’ve only interacted with them when they call on me. I’ve done well in the four classes I’ve completed, but I doubt they would even recognize me.
Currently, I’m taking five classes, and while one is online, I haven’t connected with the others either. As a commuter, I just go to class and leave without much interaction.
I’m worried that if I try to strike up a conversation with them in the next few days and then ask for a reference, it will be obvious that I only want it for that purpose. Plus, I really don’t have anything specific to discuss with them, as I’m doing fine academically. The best I can think of to say is, “How are you?” which feels awkward.
I would really appreciate any advice on how to approach this situation. Thank you!
It’s completely understandable to feel anxious about asking for references, especially when you haven’t had much interaction with your professors yet. Here are a few steps you can take to make the process more comfortable:
Start Small: You could begin by attending office hours, even if it’s just to introduce yourself. You don’t have to have a specific question; simply expressing interest in the subject or asking for advice on how to succeed in the class can be a great icebreaker.
Be Honest: When you do approach your professors, consider being upfront about your situation. You can explain that you’re new to seeking references and value their insight. Professors appreciate honesty and may be more than willing to help you if they understand your context.
Show Engagement: In your conversations, share what you enjoy about their class or ask for recommendations on further reading. Engaging them in a meaningful way can help them remember you better.
Follow Up: After speaking with them, if you feel comfortable, you can mention your study abroad program and ask if they would be willing to write a reference for you. Make sure to give them all the details they might need, including the deadline and what the reference should cover.
Consider Other Options: If you have academic advisors, they might also be able to provide a reference. Look into reaching out to them as well, especially since they might know you based on your academic records.
Practice: If starting a conversation feels awkward, practice what you want to say with a friend or in front of a mirror. This might help you feel more confident.
Remember, professors are often understanding and have been in your shoes before. Good luck!