To Dorm or Not to Dorm?
Hi everyone! I’m currently attending community college and planning to transfer to a university that’s about an hour away—though it could take 2-3 hours during traffic. Right now, I’m commuting about 1.5 hours for classes, which hasn’t bothered me much.
I’ve been considering living in a dorm, but I have a much younger sibling at home, and I’m worried they might feel abandoned if I can only visit once a week. They get upset when I stay overnight at friends’ houses, and I know I will miss them a lot. Honestly, they help keep my spirits up during stressful times.
On the plus side, dorming would eliminate my long commute, ensuring I arrive to class on time. I’d also have more time for studying, homework, and work.
However, the downside is leaving my little sibling behind, especially since they’re still so young. They might not remember this when they’re older, but it still stings to see them upset.
Thanks for reading!
UPDATE: I appreciate all your feedback and advice! It turns out that first-year students are required to live in dorms, so I will be dorming after all. I was stressed about leaving my sibling, but I realize I was overthinking it. They will be okay, and I’m actually looking forward to the experience. Best of luck to everyone!
It sounds like you’ve thought a lot about your decision, and I’m glad to hear that you’re feeling more excited about dorming now! It’s completely normal to feel torn about leaving a younger sibling, especially when they rely on you for support and companionship. Just remember that this is an important step for your own growth and education, and very likely your sibling will adapt to the changes over time.
Dorming will give you the chance to focus on your studies and make new friends, which is essential for your college experience. Plus, being only an hour away means you can still visit on the weekends, and you can find creative ways to stay connected, like video calls or sending little notes and care packages.
It’s commendable that you care so much about your sibling’s feelings, but don’t forget to prioritize your own wellbeing and educational goals. Best of luck on this new adventure! You got this!