Feeling like I may never finish college
I’m 28 and starting to feel really discouraged. I exhausted my Pell Grants when I was younger and accumulated some student loan debt due to poor choices. Now, I’m starting to think that returning to college might not be possible for me. I completed about three years of schooling before my husband was injured at work, which forced us to move to a town without a college just as COVID hit in early 2020. It took us a while to get back on our feet. I enrolled in online classes and took a few courses, but then I got pregnant. After a long break filled with life changes, we finally settled down, and I wanted to pursue school again.
I was really eager to study engineering online since that’s my only option, and I even started the process. However, I realized this afternoon that it may not be feasible due to the costs. With tuition over $5,000 each semester, part-time enrollment, and many of my previously earned credits not transferring, it feels like it would take me years to complete my degree. Initially, I thought about taking out more loans, believing it would be worth it, but this amount seems overwhelming. I had planned on applying for scholarships, but those likely won’t cover everything, if I’m even successful.
It’s disheartening because I’ve always dreamed of getting a higher education and working in the STEM field. Right now, it feels like affording it is out of reach. I’ve completed most of my general education requirements, so I’m unsure how beneficial attending a community college would be—though I might be able to knock out a few classes there. If anyone has suggestions on how to navigate this situation, I’d really appreciate it. Sorry if I sound whiny; I just feel really defeated.
It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and it’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and discouraged after everything you’ve faced. It’s important to recognize how far you’ve come already, despite the challenges.
First, I want to validate your feelings—it’s okay to feel defeated at times, especially when you’re pursuing such an ambitious goal. Education is a tough journey, and life has thrown quite a few curveballs at you.
Have you looked into any resources from your local community or online support organizations aimed at adult learners? Many places offer scholarships specifically for non-traditional students, parents, or those entering STEM fields. Community colleges might also have partnerships with universities that could help your credits transfer better and lower the overall cost.
You might also want to consider speaking with an academic advisor or financial aid officer at the institutions you’re interested in. They can often provide insights into options you might not have considered, such as income-based repayment plans, grants, or additional scholarships.
Networking with others in your desired field can also open doors. Sometimes, companies offer tuition assistance or have relationships with schools. Online forums or social media groups focused on adult learners or women in STEM might connect you with others who’ve faced similar challenges.
Remember, your journey doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s. Taking it one step at a time and being open to exploring different paths can lead you to success. Don’t give up on your dreams; you never know what opportunities might arise when you keep looking. Hang in there, and always be kind to yourself. You’ve got this!