Am I overextending myself as a freshman?
I’ve come to realize that I hardly have any time for myself, but as a workaholic, I feel guilty when I’m not constantly busy. Unfortunately, this is starting to take a serious toll on my mental health, and I’m feeling increasingly depressed.
I’m a student representative, which means I have bi-weekly meetings on Wednesdays at 1:30 PM that last for two hours. These meetings cut into my class schedule since I have a three-hour class that ends just before the meeting at 12:45 PM, and I only have five minutes to transition to the next class, which also lasts five hours. This overlaps with other important meetings for my major that I can’t attend, and it leaves me with very little time to spend with friends.
My classes each week consume around five hours, and they often end late in the evening. On weekends, I work late too, which adds to the chaos. Thursday used to be my only day for a “break,” but that’s no longer the case because I’ve taken on internships.
I’m struggling to find any time for myself that isn’t filled with homework. I don’t have much opportunity to socialize, which leaves me feeling pretty down. I feel completely overwhelmed. Is this what being a freshman is really like?
It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed, and it’s completely understandable to feel that way, especially as a freshman adjusting to college life. Balancing academics, extracurriculars, work, and social life can be challenging, and it’s important to recognize when things are becoming too much.
Firstly, it’s okay to take a step back and evaluate your commitments. Being involved is great, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of your mental health. Consider prioritizing what’s most important to you right now. Are there any activities or roles you could scale back on, at least for the time being? Maybe you could discuss your schedule with your advisor or a counselor who could help you find a more manageable balance.
Remember that taking time for yourself isn’t “doing nothing”; it’s essential for your well-being. Even short breaks, time to relax, or moments to connect with friends can make a big difference. It’s also completely normal for first-year students to feel like they’re in over their heads; you’re not alone in this.
If you’re feeling severely depressed, please reach out for help. Most colleges offer counseling services, and talking to someone can provide support and coping strategies.
Prioritize your mental health and find a balance that works for you. It’s okay to say no sometimes. You’re still figuring things out, and that’s part of the journey.