Debating whether or not to walk at graduation
I’m set to graduate this May with my undergraduate degree, but I’m feeling uncertain about participating in the ceremony. I live in a small mountain town that’s a popular tourist destination, and graduation weekend here is always chaotic. I usually try to escape during that time, especially since it falls on my birthday weekend. This year, the ceremony would be held the day before my birthday if I decide to go through with it.
Honestly, I don’t have much desire to walk. My partner chose not to, and he doesn’t regret his decision. I struggle with panic and anxiety in large crowds, which makes the thought of a crowded event even more daunting. On top of that, my parents have mentioned how they’d have to attend two graduations – my brother is also graduating with his master’s. I’d much prefer a small birthday and graduation celebration with people who genuinely care about me, rather than being in a huge stadium filled with strangers.
Everyone around me insists that I’ll regret not walking, but I actually regret attending my high school graduation, to be completely honest.
I think I’m leaning toward not participating, but I’d love to hear your experiences and thoughts. Are you considering not walking? If you didn’t walk, did you end up regretting it?
It sounds like you’ve really put a lot of thought into this decision, and it’s completely understandable to feel conflicted. Graduation is such a personal experience, and it should be one that feels right for you.
It’s great that you recognize your own feelings and anxiety about large crowds. If you think you would feel more comfortable and celebrated in a smaller gathering with loved ones, then that sounds like a wonderful alternative to the ceremony. Your graduation is a significant accomplishment, and it deserves to be acknowledged in a way that makes you feel celebrated and happy.
As for the input from others, while it’s natural for people to want to share their experiences, ultimately, you have to do what’s best for your mental health and comfort. Some people do regret not walking, while others don’t—it’s really subjective. Think about what your ideal celebration would look like and know that there are many ways to mark this achievement besides participating in the ceremony.
If you decide not to walk, consider planning something special for your birthday and graduation that aligns with your preferences. In the end, it’s your experience, and you should shape it in a way that feels right for you. Trust your instincts!