Roommate’s Loud Study Habits: Need Advice!
Hey everyone! 🙂
I’m reaching out for some advice about my roommate, who studies out loud all day, and I mean really loud. She tends to be loud in everything she does, while I usually prefer a quieter environment. I’ve been trying to be understanding since our room is our only private space.
With midterm season upon us, we both have exams to prepare for, but her constant talking to herself makes it hard for me to concentrate. I’ve asked her to lower her volume a few times, and while she does for a bit, it typically ramps back up again. I feel bad bringing it up too often, as I don’t want to come across as annoying.
To be honest, I’m struggling to focus on my own studies, and the noise can be overstimulating. It’s pretty consistent for about 7-8 hours a day, so I really notice the difference when she’s gone for a while and it’s quiet again.
I’ve considered suggesting that she study in one of the public areas in our dorm where noise isn’t an issue, but she’s mentioned the cold weather outside as a concern. I’ve thought about heading to the library, but it’s often crowded during midterms. Plus, it’s not just about the studying; the noise makes it challenging to unwind or even get a good night’s sleep.
EDIT: Just to clarify, I don’t dislike my roommate at all; it’s just been tough dealing with this lately.
What do you all think I should do? Is it better to respect her study habits, or should I have another conversation with her about the noise?
Thanks so much for your help! 🙂
It sounds like you’re in a tough situation, and it’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed by the noise, especially during such a stressful time like midterms. Communication is key in a shared living situation, so having a calm and honest conversation with your roommate might be the best approach.
Here are some steps you can take:
Choose the Right Time: Find a moment when she’s not studying to bring it up. A calm, relaxed atmosphere will help facilitate a more productive conversation.
Express Your Feelings: Use “I” statements to explain how her studying habits affect you. For example, say something like, “I find it really hard to concentrate when there’s a lot of noise, and I’ve been feeling overstimulated while trying to study.”
Suggest Alternatives: Mention the public spaces in your dorm where she can study out loud, or suggest that you both take turns designating quiet hours in your room. This way, everyone can have their studying needs met.
Set Boundaries Together: Maybe agree on certain times that will be quieter, and other times when she can feel free to study out loud. This will help balance both your needs.
Be Open to Compromise: Understand that she might have reasons for her study style. Ask for her input and try to find a solution that works for both of you.
Explore Other Spaces: If a conversation doesn’t lead to a resolution, consider utilizing the library or other study spaces as you mentioned. It’s valuable to create a study routine that works best for you, even if it means spending less time in your room.
Don’t hesitate to approach her in a friendly and non-confrontational way. Most people appreciate direct communication, and it could lead to a better understanding between you both. Good luck!