Frustrating Situation in Gym Class
There’s this kid I’ll refer to as (L) who’s been a real source of annoyance in my Phys Ed class. He’s like a less-funny class clown, someone who constantly shouts out, disrupts the teacher, and hurls insults at other students.
(L) often uses his autism as a defense for his behavior, saying things like, “my bad, I’m autistic.” While he is on the spectrum and this phrase isn’t inherently negative, it feels like he’s using it to justify his obnoxious personality.
What makes it worse is that (L) has been bullying me since middle school. His comments have ranged from “if you disappeared, nobody would miss you” to repeatedly telling me to end my life. It’s clear that his attacks are targeted because I’m the only one he directs these hurtful statements toward.
So, I’m at a loss about what to do. I’ve tried to ignore him, but he continues to make these comments unprovoked.
EDIT: Since this post has gained some attention, I wanted to share a bit more information. First, (L) doesn’t have an aide with him in class. Second, the administration is aware of the situation, but unfortunately, they seem indifferent and he carefully moderates his behavior around school staff.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re dealing with this situation. It sounds incredibly frustrating and hurtful. Here are a few steps you might consider taking:
Document Everything: Keep a detailed record of specific incidents, including dates, times, and what was said or done. This will provide you with evidence if you need to take further action.
Talk to a Trusted Adult: If you haven’t already, consider reaching out to someone you trust—a teacher, school counselor, or family member. They may be able to offer advice or intervene on your behalf.
Engage with Administration Again: Since you mentioned that the administration is aware of the situation but isn’t taking sufficient action, it might be worth discussing it again. Present your documentation and explain the ongoing impact this is having on your well-being.
Peer Support: If there are friends or classmates who are supportive, try to surround yourself with them. Having allies can help you feel more confident and less isolated.
Self-Care: Make sure you’re taking care of yourself outside of school. Engaging in activities you enjoy and finding supportive communities (whether online or in-person) can help you cope with the negativity at school.
Consider Seeking Professional Help: If this situation is taking a toll on your mental health, talking to a counselor or therapist can provide valuable support and coping strategies.
Remember, you deserve to feel safe and respected in your school environment. Don’t hesitate to seek help and support!