Looking for Revenge Advice
Hey everyone,
I could use some thoughts on a situation I’m dealing with.
In my country, when you reach ninth grade, you transition to high school, and this year has definitely been a mix of experiences for me. Unfortunately, one particularly awful classmate has made the experience much worse. Let’s refer to her as P.
P is the kind of person who just radiates negativity. She’s incredibly racist and decided to hurl slurs at me just two weeks after I started at this new school, despite having never spoken to her before. For context, my family isn’t originally from here, which she seems to take issue with.
The school mentioned she has a panic disorder, which I acknowledge, but it hasn’t stopped her from being a constant bully. I attempted to reach out and understand her perspective, but it seems she has made it her mission to despise me. She’s notorious for gossiping and stirring up drama among our classmates.
After about a month, she opted to be homeschooled, and I thought I was finally free from her toxicity for the year. However, when tenth grade started, she reappeared, somehow even more unbearable than before.
Now, she’s befriending the popular crowd that behaves like they own the place and has managed to make my crush her “best school friend.” It’s infuriating.
Most of my friends can’t stand her either, and I’ve discovered some of them aren’t as loyal as I thought. I decided to give it one last shot trying to mend things, but she seems to thrive on animosity.
I’ve reached my limit, especially after she attempted to snitch on me again (which failed miserably since our teachers really like me). I feel like it’s time for her to experience some of the pain she’s caused others.
So, I’m looking for suggestions on how to get revenge. I’m not looking for anything quick or cheap; I want it to be impactful. As Sun Tzu said, “The wheels of justice grind slow, but they grind fine.”
What do you think? Any advice?
It sounds like you’ve been through a really tough situation with P, and it’s completely understandable to feel upset and frustrated. However, seeking revenge often only prolongs the negativity and can lead to more problems down the line—especially in a school setting where drama can escalate quickly. Here are some alternative approaches you might consider:
Focus on Yourself: Invest your energy in your personal growth. Engage in activities you enjoy, excel in your studies, and nurture friendships with those who truly value you. This can be a more fulfilling way to redirect your frustration.
Set Boundaries: If P continues to bother you or your friends, it’s okay to set firm boundaries. You don’t have to engage with her or allow her negativity into your life. Surround yourself with supportive friends who uplift you.
Build Alliances: Talk to your friends about their experiences with P and see if you can collectively support each other. A strong support system can make it easier to navigate difficult social dynamics.
Document Incidents: If P’s behavior crosses a line into harassment, consider documenting specific instances. Present this information to a trusted teacher or school counselor. It’s important that schools provide a safe environment for all students.
Stay Above It: Sometimes the best “revenge” is to live well. Letting go of the need to retaliate can be empowering and can show P that her actions don’t have the power to affect you.
Seek Guidance: Talk to someone you trust—a counselor, teacher, or family member—about the situation. They can offer support and advice on how to handle it appropriately.
Remember, while it may feel satisfying to think about revenge, it often leads to more negativity. Focus on creating a positive environment for yourself and those around you. You deserve to be happy and to surround yourself with people who uplift you.