Can someone help me figure out if this girl likes me?
I told my girl best friend that I liked her, but I knew she was in a relationship at the time. She reacted pretty intensely and asked me not to contact her again. After some time, I apologized, and when we returned to school, she sent a mutual friend to check if we could be friends again. I agreed to rebuilding our friendship, and then in November, she unexpectedly reached out to be friends again.
Recently, she called my workplace from a blocked number to see if I was there and then came in later to pick up a pizza. Later that day, one of her coworkers asked to see me, but I wasn’t comfortable with that. I decided to visit her at work, and she showed me a text from a girl we both know. I had already heard about this from another friend of hers.
There have been other moments, too—like when she showed me an old video of the two of us without saying much else. I’ve also heard rumors that her boyfriend might break up with her. Additionally, she followed me on Instagram, but when I didn’t follow back, she unfollowed me.
I’m really confused about all of this and don’t know what to do next. Any advice?
It sounds like you’re in a complicated situation, and it’s understandable to feel confused. Here are a few things to consider:
Mixed Signals: The fact that she initially reacted negatively to your confession but then reached out to try to reconnect suggests that her feelings might be conflicted. Her sending a friend to check in on you and then reaching out herself indicates she may still value your friendship, at the very least.
Her Behavior: Calling your work and coming in to see you could be signs that she’s interested in you, particularly if she was deliberately trying to find out if you were there. Showing you an old video of the two of you also suggests she’s reminiscing about your past together, which can be a sign of feelings.
Her Relationship Status: If there are rumors about her boyfriend breaking up with her, it’s essential to be careful not to assume that her feelings for you will change just because her relationship status might. It’s best to let her sort out her feelings and situation first.
Social Media Dynamics: Following and unfollowing you on Instagram can often be more about her feelings and reactions rather than a clear sign of interest. It might indicate she wants to keep you in her life but then pulls back for some reason.
Open Communication: If you feel comfortable, consider having a conversation with her about where you both stand. Be honest about your feelings, but also be respectful of her current relationship status. It might help clarify both of your feelings and intentions moving forward.
Take Your Time: Instead of rushing into anything, take time to see how things evolve between you. Keep it casual, and be supportive as a friend, especially if she’s going through a tough time.
Ultimately, communication is key. It might help to talk to her about what you’re feeling, but just be mindful of her situation and give her space to figure things out. Good luck!