Class Drama
Am I wrong to think this was both unethical and unprofessional?
Last week, my classmates and I found ourselves divided into groups over a problem that has been simmering for a while, but this time it felt more intense.
Today in class, we brought this issue up with our tutor. The problem is that she has a close relationship with the group that is, quite frankly, the core of the drama. They often go out for breakfast together, invite her to parties, and some even include her in family gatherings. Throughout our discussion, she repeatedly told the rest of us to be quiet while giving preference to that one group. She even raised her voice at us while valuing their opinions above ours.
In my opinion, someone in her position—our tutor—should remain neutral and shouldn’t pick a side, no matter how much she likes them. She is the adult we look to for guidance, and she should help us navigate these issues without escalating them.
I genuinely like her, so it was disheartening to see her handle this situation in such a way. I didn’t expect it, and honestly, it’s really upsetting that I didn’t feel heard or understood by her.
I apologize if my English isn’t perfect; I’m still learning!
It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling frustrated and hurt by your tutor’s behavior. It’s crucial for someone in a position of authority, like a teacher or tutor, to remain neutral and create an environment where all students feel heard and valued. When she favored one group over the others, it undermined her role as a facilitator and made it difficult for students to express their concerns.
You’re not wrong for expecting fairness in such a situation. It can be incredibly disheartening when someone you look up to doesn’t act in a way that aligns with your expectations for support and guidance, especially in a tense situation. It’s important to address this—perhaps you could consider talking to her privately to express how her actions made you feel. Communication might help her understand the impact of her behavior and hopefully encourage a more balanced approach in the future.
Remember, your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to seek a resolution. I hope things improve for you and your classmates!