Feeling Frustrated and Stuck
I’m reaching out because I’m really struggling with friendships at my small school (only about 300 students). It’s been tough to connect with others, and the friends I do have often tease me, making me feel like I’m being bullied. The challenge is that, since the school is so small, cutting ties with them isn’t easy. For example, when they found out I was interested in talking to an older girl, they teased me about it incessantly for weeks.
To make matters worse, they often try to copy my work, and I get the sense that they don’t truly like me. Even when I muster the courage to approach someone new, they tend to ignore me. I’m really struggling with this situation. Any advice would be appreciated!
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through this—it sounds really tough. It’s hard to feel stuck, especially in a small school where it can feel like there’s no escape from the same people. Here are a few suggestions that might help:
Set Boundaries: It’s important to stand up for yourself. If your friends are teasing you or making you uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to tell them how you feel. You have the right to establish boundaries about what is acceptable to you.
Find Like-Minded People: Try to look for other students who share your interests or values. Even in a smaller school, there might be clubs or activities you can join where you might meet people who are more supportive.
Focus on Your Hobbies: Engage in activities that you enjoy, whether that’s sports, art, gaming, or something else. This can help you meet new people and take your mind off the negativity.
Talk to Someone: If things become overwhelming, consider speaking to a trusted teacher or counselor. They can offer you support and advice, and help mediate if necessary.
Stay True to Yourself: Remember that you don’t have to conform to their expectations or opinions. Your feelings and interests are valid, and it’s okay to go after what you want, such as talking to that girl.
Build Confidence: Focus on small steps to build your confidence in social situations. If you can, try to engage in simple conversations or join group activities.
Remember, it’s okay to want different friends, and it’s perfectly fine to seek respect in your relationships. You deserve to be treated well!