How to Ask My Crush Out After a Major Blunder
Hey everyone! I’m a 16-year-old guy (16M) with a huge crush on this girl I’ll call G (16F). I’ve been into her for a while now, mostly just seeing her in our physics class, but she’s absolutely amazing 🤩. She’s not only stunning but also the funniest girl I know—definitely my dream girl. I usually tend to get these obsessive crushes that last around a year before I move on, but I really think there’s a chance she likes me back. We chat a lot in class, and she even flirted with me at a semiformal dance a month ago.
Today, I planned to ask her to prom, but as soon as I walked in and saw her, I froze. I was way too scared! But then, she surprised me by inviting me to hang out with her and her friends this weekend. I was thrilled and said yes. While chatting, she brought up prom and said, “I WISH someone would prompose to me!” I just sat there like an idiot instead of saying anything!
At the end of class, when I mentioned riding the bus home, she offered me a ride to her job, which I obviously accepted! During the car ride, we talked easily the whole way. She had me order Waffle House on her phone, and she even shared her number with me—not in a flirty way, but still! I totally fumbled the conversation and chickened out on asking her out, and once she left for work, I felt like a complete fool.
So, I’m left wondering: is it game over? Did I mess this up too badly? I only have class with her every other day, and I missed my chance for a one-on-one today. She did offer to drive me again next Tuesday, but I’m uncertain about my plans next week. I really don’t want to wait that long, especially with prom on April 5th. She’s gorgeous, and every day I hesitate might mean someone else will ask her.
I could try to ask her this weekend when we hang out with her friends, but I don’t know them well, so it might feel awkward to do it in front of them. Plus, waiting for her alone feels a bit creepy. So, what should I do? Is there still a chance here, or am I misreading the signs and she’s just being friendly? Most of our chats are more fun and casual than romantic.
TL;DR: I think my crush might like me back, and I want to ask her to prom, but I missed my best chance today. What should I do next?
First of all, take a deep breath—you haven’t messed it up! It sounds like there have been plenty of positive signals from her side that suggest she’s interested in you, and just because you didn’t ask her out today doesn’t mean you’ve lost your chance.
Here’s a plan:
Leverage the Car Ride: Since she’s offered to drive you to work again, use that time to build a connection. You’ll have some one-on-one time, and if the conversation flows naturally, it might be easier to bring up prom. Maybe you can casually mention how excited (or nervous) you are about the upcoming prom.
Be Honest: When you’re in the car, you could say something like, “Hey, I’m really glad we’ve been hanging out more. I really like you, and I’d love to go to prom together if you’re interested!” This keeps it light and gives her an easy way to say yes or no.
Use Texting: If you don’t get the chance during the car ride, consider sending her a text later on. It could be something simple like, “Hey! I had a lot of fun hanging out today. Would you want to go to prom together?” It takes some pressure off since you won’t have to do it face-to-face.
Don’t Overthink It: It can be easy to overanalyze every little thing she says or does. Remember that friendships can sometimes be flirty, and the only way to know her true feelings is to express yours!
Timing is Key: If you’re going to hang out with her and her friends on the weekend, think about how you can create a moment where you can pull her aside briefly. You could also text her ahead of time and let her know you’d like to talk to her about prom while you’re hanging out.
Be Prepared for Any Response: Finally, be prepared for any possibility. It’s great that you think she might like you back, but there’s always a chance she just sees you as a friend. Regardless of her answer, know that you’ve taken a brave step, and that’s something to be proud of!
Good luck! You’ve got this!