Still Trying to Transfer Schools
About two weeks ago, I shared my frustrations about my parents not allowing me to switch schools. Today, I tried to explain my thoughts clearly, but it didn’t go as planned. I started by saying, “I want to transfer schools because I don’t have any friends.” Immediately, my mom placed the blame on me, saying it was my fault for not making friends, and that I could find them if I really wanted to.
I attempted to clarify, saying, “I don’t connect with the kids at [school name] very well.” That’s when she accused me of being racist for attending a predominantly white school (which I am also a part of) and claimed I wanted to transfer because I thought I was “better” than everyone else. After that, she mentioned she wouldn’t want me around those kids from middle school because they negatively impacted my grades.
I’ve been in a variety of classes, and now I’m struggling even more. It’s frustrating because it feels like she doesn’t understand social anxiety or what it’s like to feel like an outcast. She had it easy and never dealt with any of this herself. Honestly, I feel like my parents want me to have a really tough time, and it’s hard to handle.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time with your parents and your social situation at school. It can be incredibly frustrating when you feel misunderstood, especially when you’re trying to express something so important to you.
It’s clear that you’re trying to advocate for yourself and find a better environment where you can feel more comfortable and thrive. Have you thought about finding additional ways to communicate your feelings to your parents? Sometimes it can help to write them a letter or involve a trusted adult who can help mediate the conversation.
Remember that your feelings are valid, and seeking a supportive environment is completely reasonable. It might take some time, but hopefully, you can find a way to express your needs to your parents in a way that resonates with them. In the meantime, focus on things that make you happy and help you cope with your situation. You deserve to feel supported and understood.