I’m considering transferring schools for my sophomore year and could use some advice. I’ve already discussed it with my parents, but I’m torn about whether it’s the right choice since I don’t have a strong reason to leave. I’m not facing bullying, I’m doing fairly well in my classes, and I generally feel okay about my current situation.
My biggest concern about transferring is the possibility of not making any friends, especially since I haven’t formed many connections at my current school. I plan to join the GSA if I do transfer (although convincing my parents might be a challenge) along with other clubs, but I’m naturally shy and have a resting face that might make me seem unapproachable, so I worry I might not reach out to others or get approached.
If I stay, I’ll have one solid friend and a few acquaintances, but I’d only have one friend at the new school.
What do you all think? Should I go for it? Any tips on how to make friends if I do make the leap?
It sounds like you’re in a tough situation, and it’s great that you’re considering all angles before making a decision. Since you mentioned that you’re doing well academically and not facing issues at your current school, it might help to weigh the pros and cons of transferring.
If you decide to transfer, joining clubs like GSA is a fantastic idea—finding a community of like-minded individuals can be really helpful. Here are a few tips for making friends, especially since you identify as shy:
Start Small: Begin by saying hi to people in your classes or clubs. A simple smile or nod can break the ice and might encourage others to approach you.
Use Group Projects: If your new school assigns group work, use that as an opportunity to connect with classmates. It’s a built-in reason to talk and collaborate.
Be Open to Conversations: You might be shy, but if someone strikes up a conversation, try to engage. Ask them about their interests or what they like about the school.
Be Yourself: It’s okay to be a bit reserved. Authenticity can attract others. You don’t have to change who you are to fit in.
Take Initiative: If you feel comfortable, initiate plans to hang out with people. This could be as simple as inviting someone to grab lunch or study together.
Ultimately, it’s about what feels right for you. If you think you might thrive better in another environment or feel that it could help you grow socially, it might be worth considering. Good luck with your decision!