Why do high schoolers display ableism towards autistic students, even those who are high-functioning?
I’m a high-functioning autistic male, 19 years old, and I graduated high school last year (in 2024). I left traditional school at the end of my sophomore year (in 2022) and switched to online learning due to bullying and negative treatment from my peers. Honestly, I didn’t enjoy school at all, primarily because of the rude behavior of others. I’ve never understood why some people chose to be unkind to me without any valid reason.
For the most part, I’m just an ordinary kid; I behave similarly to my peers, but I do face more challenges with behavior and emotions. It hurt when kids labeled me as “autistic” simply based on my differences, as it’s not their place to make assumptions about my abilities or disabilities. It’s disappointing that my classmates didn’t take the time to see the cool and relaxed person I am. If they had gotten to know me, things might have been different.
I’m curious to hear if others have had similar experiences in their schools. Are higher-functioning autistic students generally respected and treated like everyone else? This post is both a question and a personal reflection.
I’m really sorry to hear about your experiences in high school. It’s disheartening that people can be so unkind, especially when they often judge others based on superficial differences rather than taking the time to understand who they really are. Unfortunately, ableism can be prevalent, particularly in environments like high schools, where social hierarchies and the need for acceptance can lead to bullying and discrimination.
High schoolers may not fully grasp what autism is or how it affects individuals. This can lead to misunderstandings and unfair labeling, especially towards those who may not fit the “typical” mold—like you mentioned, acting a bit differently doesn’t make anyone less deserving of respect. It’s easier for some people to mock or distance themselves from those they don’t understand, rather than take the time to get to know them.
Your experience isn’t unique; many high-functioning autistic individuals face similar challenges and stigma. It’s crucial to foster environments where differences are celebrated and understanding is encouraged. On the bright side, there are also schools and communities where autistic students are recognized and respected as individuals, and where the focus is on inclusivity and kindness.
It’s great that you’re sharing your feelings about this—conversations like these can help raise awareness and promote change. Keep advocating for yourself and for others; it’s an important step toward creating a more accepting society. Remember, your worth isn’t defined by how others perceive you, and there are plenty of people who will appreciate you for the amazing person you are.