Understanding Social Norms: Why a Simple Greeting Isn’t Always Personal
In many social environments, there’s an expectation to acknowledge others with a simple “hi” or a friendly smile. However, for some individuals, especially those who are naturally introverted or navigating new social landscapes, this norm can feel overwhelming or insincere.
Recently, I reflected on how I interact with others since transitioning to a new school during my junior year. In this setting, it seems like everyone greets everyone—whether they know each other well or not. At first, I tried to reciprocate these greetings, but over time, I found myself limiting my acknowledgments to only those I truly recognize—offering a simple smile or greeting only familiar faces.
Now in my senior year, I find myself less socially engaged. Chronic sleep deprivation often leaves me feeling detached and disoriented, making social interactions even more challenging. I’ve noticed that some people interpret my silence or minimal responses as rudeness or a lack of friendliness. But the truth is, I am not always in the right state of mind or mood to engage, and I believe it shouldn’t be misconstrued as a personal slight.
It’s important to understand that social gestures like a polite smile or a brief greeting are not always a reflection of one’s personality or intentions. Sometimes, we’re simply not able or willing to engage, and that’s perfectly okay.
To my fellow students and social peers: let’s remember that everyone has their own comfort levels and circumstances. A friendly acknowledgment, like a “hi,” is appreciated, but it shouldn’t be the sole measure of someone’s kindness or character. Respecting personal boundaries and understanding differing social cues can foster a more inclusive and empathetic environment.
Please excuse any language nuances, as English isn’t my first language. I hope this message resonates and sheds light on the nuances of social interactions that don’t always fit the common norm.