So my professor brought her husband to class. She hyped this up all semester. (For reference I go to community college and this is my very first time going to college. Our class is very small.) I was excited when I saw that he was there because of how much this was hyped.
He started the speech off with talking a little bit about how in indian culture they value stem academics. Then he said “this could be triggering.” I thought the trigger warning was goning to be about other stuff?
Anyway, he says exactly: “there was this girl in my class, I thought she was pretty and cute, so I started rubbing up on her. There wasn’t verbal communication, but we would rub up on each other and fool around in class. This went on for 6 months.”
Jaw dropped because what the hell am I listening to right now. This is the speech thats been hyped up all semester?
He goes on to talk about how they got “caught” by her friend and she ended up telling her friend he was SAing her. Many women called him a molestor and even his parents found out. He had no legal consequences because it was never reported. It was a whole thing. He had to “wear that label” for the rest of college.
He then talked about motivation and other stuff like that. NGL I didn’t pay attention to everything. He talked about how he had a high paying job that he only had to work for 3 hours a day and he’d get his fat ass pay check and then realized he should be working more for such a big check. He talked about how you should do things even if you’re scared. I feel like I learned a lot of this earlier in life so I didn’t really pay much attention. But I can guarantee y’all that NONE of the first story connected to ANY of this. It felt like he was just randomly trauma dumping.
I asked him after class because I was still a little confused. I asked him why he feels this was a false accusations if there was no verbal communication? It just seemed weird.
“Well sometimes, she would come over and grind on ME during class!!”
Okay.
He did say (to me) that they talked it out on the phone years later and how they are friends. Don’t know why he didn’t share that part with the class, I think it was important.
The next time I went to class Prof told the class how we were the hardest class theyd ever shared this story with. She said she had a panic attack after class. I know it was because of me. Then she told the class that she talked to me after class (like told everyone it was me that talked to him after class) and relayed our conversation to the class. She recognized that the fact that they talked it out was important and should’ve been shared and thanked us for listening.
I really liked her until this, it felt inappropriate and unnecessary but that’s just me. I wanted to share because I cannot go a day without thinking about this because it was so ridiculous.