Navigating Parental Expectations and College Choices: My Journey to Transfer
Recent graduates often face difficult decisions, especially when their educational aspirations collide with family expectations. I’d like to share my experience to shed light on the challenges and considerations involved in choosing the right college path.
Educational Background and Initial Plans
I completed high school with a GPA of 3.3 and an SAT score of 1300. My journey was unique—I spent five years living in the United States, starting high school with limited English skills. During my senior year, I only applied to two colleges: Saint Peter’s University and Stevens Institute of Technology. While I viewed Saint Peter’s as a backup option, Stevens was my ideal school, and I believed my application was competitive, supported by a compelling essay and strong recommendation letters. Unfortunately, I faced rejection from Stevens, which left me with limited options since deadlines at other institutions had already passed.
Family Influence and College Decision
After the rejection, my primary choice was to attend community college for one or two years, with the goal of transferring to my dream school later. However, my parents were strongly opposed to this plan—they preferred I attend a four-year university immediately. Respecting their wishes while remaining committed to my academic goals, I’ve enrolled at Saint Peter’s University with the intention to work diligently and transfer to Stevens in the future.
Transferring Between Universities vs. Community Colleges
One common question among students in similar situations revolves around the difficulty of transferring from one university to another compared to starting at a community college and then transferring. Generally speaking, transferring directly between universities can be more competitive and challenging due to more rigorous acceptance criteria. Conversely, community colleges often have transfer agreements and pathways designed to facilitate a smoother transition to four-year institutions. Choosing the best route depends on individual circumstances, academic performance, and long-term goals.
Final Thoughts
While family opinions are important, it’s crucial to weigh your educational journey carefully. Pursuing a transfer from a university like Saint Peter’s to Stevens requires dedication and strategic planning, but many students successfully navigate this path. Ultimately, aligning your educational choices with your aspirations—and communicating openly with your family—can help create a fulfilling academic experience.
If you’re facing similar challenges or contemplating your transfer options, remember that perseverance and clear goals are key to turning your aspirations into reality.