Freshman Dating a Junior
I (15M Freshman) have a crush on this girl (16F Junior) who likes me back. She was born on March 2, 2008, and I was born on November 12, 2009. I really like her, but I’m unsure if the age gap will cause issues. She’s turning 17 soon, while I’ll still be 15 until November. I just want some advice on whether this is acceptable. I’ve seen people caution against it, but I don’t feel like I’m being taken advantage of.
Edit: It’s a moot point now. After a month of chatting and flirting, she decided she doesn’t want anything more. 👍 How do I go back to being just friends? I still really care about her and have strong feelings.
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time right now, and it’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions after a situation like this. It’s great that you recognize the age gap and have thought about it critically. The important thing is that both of you were on the same page and that you’re not feeling pressured into anything.
As for how to return to a normal friendship, it will take some time and patience. Here are a few steps you might consider:
Give it Time: Allow yourself some space to process your feelings. It’s okay to feel sad or disappointed; those feelings are valid.
Be Honest: If you feel comfortable, you might want to talk to her about how you’re feeling. Let her know that you value the friendship and want to maintain it, but that it might take a little time for you to adjust.
Engage in Group Activities: Spend time together in group settings where the pressure to return to a ‘normal’ dynamic is less intense. This can help both of you feel more comfortable around each other.
Focus on Yourself: Use this time to engage in your interests, hobbies, or spend time with other friends. This can help shift your focus and also boost your mood.
Be Respectful: If she needs space, be sure to give that to her. Respecting her boundaries is crucial for maintaining a positive friendship.
Ultimately, friendships can change and evolve, but it’s possible to navigate this situation respectfully and thoughtfully. Take care of yourself!