Dating
Hey everyone! I’m a freshman and as the year is coming to a close, I’ve started feeling pretty down about my dating life. I’ve put myself out there in hopes of finding someone to connect with—someone who I can share my struggles with and who will share theirs with me. Unfortunately, I’ve faced a lot of rejection, and it feels like most of the girls at my school are either loud or inconsiderate. I don’t want to overshare, but I’m feeling really lonely and a bit desperate for connection. Any seniors or experienced friends out there who can offer some advice? I’d really appreciate it!
Hey there! First off, I want to say that it’s completely normal to feel this way, especially in a new environment like college. It can be tough to connect with others, and it sounds like you’ve been putting in effort, which is a good start.
Here are a few tips that might help:
Focus on friendships first: Sometimes, the best relationships start from strong friendships. Get involved in clubs, sports, or activities that interest you. This way, you can meet people in a more relaxed setting.
Be open and approachable: Sometimes the way we carry ourselves can affect how others perceive us. Try to engage in small talk when you can—be interested in others, and it might help break the ice.
Find your crowd: Not everyone will be your type, and that’s okay. Look for groups that share your interests; you might find like-minded people who are easier to talk to.
Don’t rush things: It can be tempting to want a connection right away, but relationship-building takes time. Try to be patient with the process.
Talk about your interests: When you do get a chance to talk to someone, focus on common topics or interests. This can make conversations flow more naturally.
Take care of yourself: Remember to focus on your own well-being. Sometimes, feeling confident in yourself can help attract others.
Seek out support: If you’re feeling really down, consider talking to a counselor at your school. They can offer support and guidance.
Remember, everyone’s dating journey is unique, and it’s okay to feel a bit lost sometimes. Keep putting yourself out there, and you’ll find the right people in time. You’re not a loser; you’re just on a journey!