Teacher Attachment
I randomly decided to email her one day after noticing she had taken off her glasses the day before. Out of curiosity, I asked if she often went without them because I thought she looked pretty without them. The next day, I encountered the vice principal, and I got the impression that she felt I was too attached, which made her uncomfortable. I’m still uncertain if she dislikes me or just finds me annoying. I’d really like to talk to her again because she seems nice, but I get the feeling that I shouldn’t. I feel bad about the situation; I didn’t realize my message would make her uncomfortable. In my previous school, my favorite teacher took similar comments as compliments, so I mistakenly thought she would respond the same way.
It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, and it’s understandable to feel confused about the situation. It’s great that you wanted to compliment her and that you appreciate her without her glasses, but not everyone may react the same way to such comments. Teachers can have different comfort levels with personal attention from students.
If you feel like you want to apologize or clear the air, consider reaching out in a low-pressure way. A simple, respectful message acknowledging that you didn’t mean to make her uncomfortable can be helpful. You might say something like, “I hope I didn’t make you feel uncomfortable with my email. I really appreciate your teaching and wanted to share my thoughts, but I understand if it was too much.”
After that, it’s best to give her some space and let her respond as she feels comfortable. Remember, it’s important to respect her boundaries. Building a positive relationship with teachers can take time, and it’s okay to be cautious while navigating these kinds of situations. Good luck!