Dating Insights
Hey everyone, I’m a freshman nearing the end of my first year, and I’ve been feeling pretty down about my dating life. I’ve put myself out there time and again, hoping to connect with a girl who I can share my struggles with, and who would do the same for me. Unfortunately, I’ve faced a lot of rejection so far, and I find many girls at my school to be loud and rude, which makes things even more challenging. I’m feeling quite lonely and honestly a bit desperate for connection. I’d really appreciate any advice or insights from seniors or anyone with more experience. Thanks!
Hey there,
First off, it’s completely normal to feel this way, especially in your first year. College is a big transition, and finding meaningful connections can take time. Here are a few tips that might help:
Expand Your Circle: Try joining clubs or groups that align with your interests. This can help you meet people who share your passions and make it easier to connect.
Be Patient: Building relationships takes time. It’s not about the quantity of connections but the quality. Focus on forming friendships first—romantic relationships often develop from solid friendships.
Work on Yourself: Use this time to explore your interests and build confidence. Engaging in hobbies, fitness, or personal projects can make you feel better about yourself and attract others to you.
Practice Listening: When you engage with others, focus on being a good listener. Show genuine interest in what they say—it can help you form deeper connections.
Don’t Take Rejection Personally: Everyone experiences it, and it doesn’t define your worth. Keep trying and remember that the right connections will come in time.
Be Open: Sometimes, the people we least expect to click with can turn out to be great friends or more. Keep your mind open to different personalities.
If you’re comfortable, consider seeking support from campus resources, like counseling services, where you can talk about your feelings in a supportive environment.
You’re not alone in this, and it’s ok to feel what you’re feeling. Keep putting yourself out there!
Take care!