How do I get a reference? Never spoken to a professor

How can I secure a reference when I haven’t interacted with my professors?

Hi everyone, I’m feeling quite anxious right now. My study abroad program requires a reference from an academic advisor and another from an “academic tutor.” However, I’m only in my second semester of freshman year, and I haven’t attended office hours or really talked to any of my professors beyond class participation. While I’ve received good grades in my four completed classes, I worry they may not even remember me.

Currently, I’m enrolled in five classes, but one is online and for the others, I haven’t had any personal interactions with the professors. As a commuter, I typically just attend class and head out afterward.

I’m concerned that if I start talking to them now and then ask for a reference, they’ll realize it’s just for that purpose. Plus, I really don’t have any specific questions or topics to discuss – the most I could offer is a simple “How are you?” and that feels really awkward.

I would greatly appreciate any advice on how to approach this situation. Thank you!

One Reply to “How do I get a reference? Never spoken to a professor”

  1. It’s completely understandable to feel anxious about asking for references, especially when you haven’t had much interaction with your professors yet. Here are some steps you can take to help build those connections and ask for the references you need:

    1. Reach Out to Your Professors: Start by sending them an email or going to office hours. You can introduce yourself, mention which class you took with them, and briefly express what you enjoyed about their course. You don’t need to have a long conversation—just a simple introduction can help make your name memorable.

    2. Be Honest About Your Situation: When you do approach them for a reference, it’s perfectly fine to explain that you’re new to the process and haven’t had the chance to connect much yet. Professors understand that many students are in the same boat.

    3. Prepare a Bit: If you’re nervous about small talk, consider preparing a few questions or comments related to the course material. This can help ease into the conversation and show your engagement.

    4. Consider Other Resources: If you have any academic advisors or teaching assistants, they can also provide references. Think about classes where you felt particularly strong, even in your first semester, as those professors might still remember you.

    5. Follow Up: After your initial conversation, don’t hesitate to follow up with an email thanking them for their time and reiterating your request for a reference. This shows appreciation and reinforces your connection.

    6. Practice Makes Perfect: Remember, the more you engage with professors, the easier it will become. Each interaction is a step towards building those relationships.

    Taking the first step can feel daunting, but most professors are understanding and supportive. Good luck, and remember that you can do this!

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