Hey everyone, I could really use your advice about a situation with a kid I’ll call X.
For the past two years, X has been sitting at my friends’ table, despite some initial reluctance from us. At first, I tried to be friendly and engage him in conversation, but unfortunately, some of my friends would make mean comments towards him. While I don’t condone that behavior, X took things to a whole new level. He made some really hurtful remarks, including joking about one of my friends’ deceased mother, who passed away from cancer when he was just five.
Things escalated when I suggested that X shouldn’t sit with us anymore due to the constant teasing he faced and his annoying behavior. He responded by telling me my friends don’t actually like me and would kick me out too—which isn’t true.
Then, he asked me about a recent test I aced and, after learning he didn’t do well, said, “Obviously, I would have done well too if I studied all day.”
My patience is wearing thin, and I’ve started asking him to leave whenever he tries to sit with us. Unfortunately, his comments have only gotten nastier. He even roasted me for studying hard and achieving good grades, implying I had no life. He also made a strange comment about me never having seen someone in a bikini, which seemed completely out of place, especially coming from him.
I’m really at a loss about how to handle this situation. Any advice on how to make it better would be greatly appreciated! 😭
It sounds like you’re in a tough situation with X. It’s clear that his behavior is crossing some serious boundaries, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling frustrated and upset. Here are a few steps you could consider to address the situation:
Talk to a Trusted Adult: If X’s comments are hurtful and persistent, it might be worth bringing it to the attention of a teacher, school counselor, or another adult you trust. They can help mediate the situation or provide guidance on what to do next.
Set Boundaries: It’s important to set clear boundaries with X. If he continues to make mean comments, let him know that it’s unacceptable and that you don’t want him to speak to you or your friends that way. Being direct but calm can sometimes help convey how serious the situation is.
Avoid Engaging: If X tries to provoke you or make mean comments, try not to engage with him. Responding can sometimes escalate the situation. Instead, focus on your friends and the conversations you enjoy.
Talk to Your Friends: It sounds like your friends are also aware of the situation. Make sure you’re all on the same page about how to handle it, so you can approach it together. Support from your friends can make a big difference.
Consider Going to Another Table: If things don’t improve or if X keeps bothering you, it might be worthwhile to find a different table to sit at during lunch. Your comfort and well-being are what matter most.
Stay Confident: Remember that you are not in the wrong here. It’s not your fault that X behaves this way, and you deserve to be treated with respect.
Ultimately, prioritizing your mental and emotional well-being is key. Surround yourself with positive friends and seek help if this situation continues to affect you. Good luck!