I’m feeling conflicted about whether or not to walk at graduation. I’m set to graduate this May with my undergraduate degree, but I live in a small mountain town that turns into a crowded tourist spot during graduation weekend. It can be overwhelming, and I usually try to escape the chaos, especially since it coincides with my birthday. This year, I would be walking the day before my birthday if I choose to participate.
Honestly, the idea of walking doesn’t appeal to me. My partner opted out of his graduation ceremony and has no regrets about it. I struggle with anxiety and panic attacks in large crowds, which adds to my hesitation. Additionally, my parents have expressed dissatisfaction with having to attend two graduations since my brother is also graduating with his master’s. I’d much prefer to host a smaller celebration for both my birthday and graduation with friends who genuinely care about me, rather than being in a huge stadium surrounded by strangers.
Lots of people around me are insisting that I’ll regret not participating. To be truthful, I already regret going to my high school graduation.
I think I’ve nearly made my decision: I probably won’t walk. I would love to hear your thoughts or experiences. Are any of you considering not walking? Did you end up regretting your choice?
It sounds like you’ve thoughtfully considered your options, and it’s totally valid to prioritize your well-being and comfort. Graduation is ultimately about celebrating your achievements in a way that feels right for you. If walking in a large ceremony brings you anxiety and you’d rather celebrate in a more personal, intimate setting, then skipping the walk might be the best choice.
Many people feel pressure to participate in traditions, but remember that your journey and how you choose to celebrate it is unique to you. Your partner’s experience also suggests that not walking doesn’t have to lead to regret. It’s all about what makes you feel fulfilled.
If you’re leaning towards a smaller graduation or birthday celebration with loved ones, that sounds like a wonderful way to honor your accomplishments. You could even consider finding a way to commemorate your graduation in a way that feels meaningful to you, whether that’s a small gathering, a special meal, or a personal activity that you enjoy.
Ultimately, trust your instincts. Your graduation is a celebration of your hard work, and it should reflect what you value most. Celebrating how you want, whether with a walk or a cozy gathering, is what’s most important.