Subject: Need Advice on Moving On!
Hey everyone, I’m looking for some support to move on from someone I can’t seem to shake off. Here’s the situation: I’m a sophomore in high school, soon to be a junior. I’ve known this guy, “J,” since freshman year. We had a brief phase where we both liked each other and talked, but we never actually dated. For reasons that aren’t worth going into, we stopped communicating, and it’s been over a year since we last spoke. However, I still have feelings for him, and I realize I haven’t been putting in enough effort to let go.
The problem is, we don’t share any classes this year, even though we’re both in the same programs. It’s made it tough to find a way to reconnect. Recently, I found out through a friend that J is transferring to a highly competitive school. While I’m not surprised—there are a few others from our grade doing the same—I’m feeling a bit left behind. We’re both strong academically (taking all honors/AP classes), but I’ve been comfortable staying at my school, which has a great program.
With only a few months left in the school year, I know I need to move on. It feels pretty sad to like someone I might never see again. So, I’m reaching out for any advice on how to get over him. Thanks!
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and it’s totally normal to feel this way, especially when you have lingering feelings for someone. Here are some tips that might help you move on:
Focus on Yourself: Spend time exploring your interests and hobbies. Engaging in activities that make you feel good about yourself can help shift your focus away from J.
Limit Social Media Exposure: If you follow him on social media, consider taking a break from it. Seeing posts about him can keep those feelings alive.
Talk It Out: Share your feelings with trusted friends or family members. Sometimes just getting it off your chest can help you process your emotions and feel supported.
Stay Busy: Keep yourself occupied with schoolwork, extracurricular activities, or new projects. The more you fill your time with positive distractions, the less you’ll dwell on those feelings.
Set Boundaries: If you find it hard to stop thinking about him, try setting some mental boundaries. Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel sad, but it’s also important to accept that moving on is necessary.
Consider Closure: If it feels right, you could write him a letter (even if you don’t send it) to express your feelings. This can help provide some closure and allow you to articulate what you’re going through.
Look Ahead: Remember that high school is just a phase, and there will be more opportunities to meet new people. Keeping an open mind about future relationships can help or even give you hope.
Acceptance: Try to come to terms with the fact that sometimes things don’t work out the way we want. It’s a part of growing up, and with time, it will become easier.
It’s okay to feel sad, but remember to be kind to yourself during this process. You’ve got this!