Feeling really isolated right now. (just venting)
I’m a 17-year-old guy, and honestly, I can’t stand my classmates. The boys seem to despise girls for not sticking to outdated stereotypes, and some of them have serious extremist views. The guy I was casually seeing dumped me for my ex-best friend and girlfriend, who I thought would always be there for me. It turns out I was just someone she used for help with schoolwork. When I suggested she treat people better, she cut me off completely. Not to mention, she was jealous of any other friendships I had. And now, the guy I liked is part of that extremist crowd!
I guess I’m the odd one out because I’m attracted to both girls and boys.
The boys in my class are pretty terrible, and while the girls aren’t as bad, I still have my issues with them. A lot of them stopped talking to me after I broke up with the girl I mentioned. They all claimed they couldn’t stand her when she was around, yet they’ve all sided with her now. I asked my closest friends about it—one can’t stand her and the other used to be friends with her—but they’re just as confused as I am.
I’m really putting in the effort: my grades are solid, I do extra work in subjects I like, and I’m in a punk band, but nobody seems to notice or appreciate that. I take care of myself and work out regularly. I know I’m an introvert, but I can hold a conversation just fine! It’s frustrating to see everyone gravitate towards someone who treated them so poorly.
On the bright side, I’ve met a few good friends after my breakup, and they mean the world to me. I’m just feeling more and more lost in this whole high school experience. It’s exhausting at this point.
Thanks for reading this long post—I really appreciate any advice you might have! D:
Hey there,
First of all, I just want to say that I’m really sorry to hear about everything you’re going through. High school can be such a tough time, especially when it feels like people around you are so focused on popularity and superficial relationships. It’s completely understandable to feel frustrated and alone in all of this.
It’s clear that you’re a thoughtful and caring person, and it’s really disappointing when people don’t seem to appreciate those qualities, especially when they’re drawn to someone who treats them poorly. It sounds like you’re navigating a lot of complex dynamics, and it’s tough when friendships shift like that.
It’s great to hear that you have found a few friends after your breakup—those connections can really make a difference. Surrounding yourself with people who genuinely support and appreciate you is so important. Have you thought about getting involved in new activities or clubs outside of school where you can meet like-minded individuals? Sometimes finding people who share your interests can lead to deeper friendships.
As for the boys in your class, remember that their behavior speaks more about them than it does about you. Stay true to yourself and your values, and don’t feel like you have to change for their approval. How you treat others and the kindness you show will ultimately matter much more in the long run.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it might also be helpful to talk to someone you trust about your feelings, whether it’s a family member, mentor, or a school counselor. They might be able to offer support and guidance as you navigate these challenges.
Hang in there! Things can and do get better. You’re doing amazing things for yourself, and that will pay off in time. Keep being you!
Take care.