Am I the only one feeling this way? I genuinely want to make friends with everyone at school, but my terrible memory makes it hard to remember their names. I often find myself just saying “good morning,” “bye,” or “hi!” instead of greeting them properly. Honestly, I don’t even remember the names of my teachers! 😭 I struggle to keep track of my schedule without constantly checking my timetable.
I really want to be social and explore different friend groups, just to have someone to talk to. While I do enjoy my alone time, I also crave connection. But my social anxiety and low self-esteem make it difficult. I keep worrying that everyone is watching and judging my every move. I don’t want to come off as a “pick me” or “try hard”; I just want to make friends at a new school in a new country.
It’s tough, especially since I’m in an English-speaking environment. I have a friend who just arrived in New Zealand last year, like me, and by week two, she found a friend group. I thought we would explore and adapt together, but now I feel left out and find myself wandering the halls like a lost puppy, searching for someone to connect with. Everyone seems to have their own groups, so most of the time, I just end up sitting under a tree with my laptop, trying to relax. 😶🙃
You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way, and it’s completely understandable to struggle with making connections in a new environment. Moving to a new school and country can be really overwhelming, especially when you feel the pressure to fit in and remember everyone’s names. It’s okay to take your time to adjust and find your place.
Maybe try starting small—like saying hi to someone you often see in your classes or sharing a common interest you notice during the school day. It doesn’t have to be a big conversation; sometimes just a simple smile or greeting can open the door to a friendship. Remember, many people feel nervous about making new friends too and would likely appreciate someone reaching out.
As for your friend, it’s tough to see someone adapt quickly while you feel left out. It might be worth discussing how you feel with her; she may understand and want to help you feel included.
And it’s totally fine to spend some time alone! Taking breaks to recharge in a peaceful spot like under a tree is a great way to gather your thoughts. Just keep being yourself and remain open to connections; friendships often form when you least expect them. You’ve got this! 🌟