How do you guys deal with free time?

How do you all make the most of your free time?

Hi everyone!

I’m currently in my second year studying psychology with the goal of earning a PhD in Clinical Psychology. I’ve worked hard to build a strong CV—I’m part of the honors college, maintaining a 4.0 GPA, volunteering at a crisis hotline, serving as an officer in a club, and working as a research assistant in two clinical labs and one social lab. I’m also involved in two projects that will lead to poster presentations, and as a first-gen student, I’m hoping to secure a Research Experience for Undergraduates (REU) opportunity this summer.

In my spare time, I love reading, watching films, listening to music, and exercising. However, I often find myself feeling really guilty about these activities. I can’t shake the nagging feeling that there’s always something else I should be working on, leaving me in a constant state of anxiety and exhaustion. I’m curious if anyone else experiences this same type of worry. If so, how do you manage to relax and truly enjoy your downtime?

One Reply to “How do you guys deal with free time?”

  1. Hey there!

    Firstly, I want to commend you on all that you’ve accomplished so far! Balancing so many commitments while maintaining a 4.0 is no small feat, and it’s clear you’re dedicating a lot of effort to your goals in psychology.

    It’s completely normal to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, especially when you’re driven and have such high aspirations. Here are a few strategies that might help you manage that guilt and find a better balance in your free time:

    1. Reframe Your Mindset: Instead of viewing downtime as a waste, try to see it as a crucial component of your productivity. Rest is essential for mental health and can actually enhance your performance. Remind yourself that taking breaks can lead to better focus and creativity when you return to your work.

    2. Set Boundaries: Allocating specific times for work and specific times for relaxation can help create a clearer separation. You could schedule your free time just as you would any other commitment. This way, you’ll have dedicated moments to enjoy your hobbies without guilt.

    3. Practice Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness or meditation practices that can help you stay present in the moment. This can reduce anxiety about unfinished tasks and allow you to appreciate the time you do have for yourself.

    4. Reflect on Your Accomplishments: Keep a journal or a list of your achievements, big or small. Recognizing how much you’ve already done can help alleviate the feeling that you need to constantly be productive.

    5. Talk to Others: You’re not alone in feeling this way, and discussing it with peers or mentors can provide support and possibly some solutions that have worked for them. Sometimes just knowing others share your concerns can be comforting.

    6. Engage in Low-pressure Activities: Choose relaxing activities that don’t have performance expectations attached to them, such as casual reading or a movie night with friends, so you can unwind without the pressure of productivity.

    Remember, it’s okay to take a break. Your mental health is just as important as your academic and career pursuits. Wishing you all the best on your journey, and I hope you find a way to enjoy your downtime guilt-free!

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