I’m currently dealing with a major family emergency and I’m feeling anxious about asking for an extension on an assignment.
Late Sunday night (just two days ago), I had to rush my mom to the ER due to severe chest pain, coughing up blood, and difficulty breathing. Doctors discovered that she has fluid in her lungs, potentially due to pneumonia. There was so much fluid that they couldn’t determine if pneumonia was present using an X-ray or CT scan. She was given medication but was told we need to return in 48 hours for a specialist to drain the fluid. Unfortunately, that couldn’t be done in the ER. The fluid will be tested to check for pneumonia or lung cancer, which is incredibly stressful for our family.
I have no control over the timing of the procedure. Right now, my mom is in bed trying to be comfortable while dealing with this troubling condition. Given her situation, we couldn’t postpone the procedure, and we didn’t have a choice about the appointment time. I just want to ensure she gets the help she needs to breathe properly again. This is the worst I’ve ever seen her, and it’s honestly terrifying.
As luck would have it, the day of the procedure conflicts with an important in-person assignment due tomorrow that hinges on student presentations. The appointment is scheduled just 30 minutes into class, making it impossible for me to attend. I’ve reached out to my instructor to explain the urgent situation, emphasizing that I have no control over it. My mom can’t drive herself, and hospital policy states she needs someone with her. Unfortunately, I’m the only person available to help her, and I want to be there for her during this procedure because she is understandably scared.
I offered to provide any documentation, such as a doctor’s note, to support my request for an alternative assignment or makeup opportunity, as this assignment is worth 20% of my grade.
I’ve never had to ask for an extension before and felt unsure about it, but I expressed to my instructor that my circumstances were out of my hands and that I was truly desperate for a solution.
I understand that many instructors have strict policies against makeup assignments due to students who misuse them, which can be frustrating for those with genuine emergencies. Unfortunately, I still haven’t received a response from my instructor, and I’m feeling stuck. I can’t let my mom go another day in her current condition, but failing this assignment would be devastating and could cost me the course. Ultimately, my mom’s health is the priority; I can’t bear the thought of something happening to her while I’m not there to help.
Update: I still haven’t heard back from my instructor—she didn’t respond at all. I’m quite disappointed. I’ve had a difficult time with her since the beginning; she often comes off as unapproachable and unsupportive. I didn’t expect much, but a simple acknowledgment would have been appreciated. Thankfully, a neighbor was able to give my mom a ride to the hospital, and a friend met her there to take a taxi home afterward. Now, we’re anxiously waiting for her results, and I’m praying for the best outcome.
I’m really sorry to hear about what you’re going through. It’s completely understandable that you need to prioritize your mom’s health and well-being right now. Family emergencies are never easy, and you shouldn’t feel like an idiot for asking for a makeup assignment—you’re dealing with an incredibly difficult situation.
It’s unfortunate that your instructor hasn’t been supportive during this time. Many people would agree that a little compassion goes a long way, especially in trying circumstances like this. You did the right thing by reaching out and explaining your situation, and I hope that despite the lack of response, you can find a way to address the assignment.
It sounds like you’ve done everything you can to manage both your family situation and your academic responsibilities. If you’re still worried about the course, perhaps you can reach out to another faculty member or an academic advisor who might be able to advocate for you or help you navigate the situation.
In the meantime, focus on being there for your mom and taking care of yourself as well. You’re doing an incredible job managing everything, and I hope things start to look up for you and your family soon. Please keep us updated on how things go with your mom!