How do I tell my roommate I’m not living with them anymore?

How do I let my roommate know I won’t be living with them anymore?

It’s a straightforward situation, but after two years, I’ve made the decision to move on. They still think we’re all good and that we’ll continue living together, but honestly, it’s been really draining. Their mental state impacts everyone around them, and we just don’t connect at all. I can’t maintain a friendship like that. What’s the best way to approach this conversation without causing tension in our friend group?

UPDATE: I spoke to them today, and it didn’t go well… They’re mostly upset about losing access to the fridge, which seems to be their main concern. Now they’re ignoring me, along with one of our mutual friends, so that’s pretty disappointing!

One Reply to “How do I tell my roommate I’m not living with them anymore?”

  1. It sounds like you’re in a really tough situation, and I’m sorry to hear about the fallout after the conversation. It’s never easy to navigate changes in living arrangements, especially when there are strong emotions involved.

    In your next steps, it might be helpful to approach this with empathy while also being firm about your decision. You could try reaching out to them and acknowledging their feelings, letting them know that it wasn’t an easy choice for you either. You might say something like, “I understand that this is upsetting, especially with the fridge situation. I didn’t mean to create conflict, but I really think it’s best for both of us.”

    Also, give them some time to process the news. Their reaction indicates that they might be feeling a lot of emotions right now, including shock and perhaps some fear about the future. Try not to take their silence personally; it’s likely more about their adjustment to the news than anything directed at you.

    Regarding the fridge issue, if it’s feasible, maybe you could offer to help them find a replacement or suggest solutions to make the transition easier. That gesture could help soften the blow and possibly mend some bridges down the line.

    Ultimately, prioritize your well-being and remember that it’s okay to set boundaries. Your mental health matters just as much as anyone else’s. Best of luck as you navigate this situation!

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