I’m graduating in two months, and honestly, the thought of post-grad life is pretty overwhelming.
Hey there! Sorry for the random message, but I could really use some insights from anyone who’s been in my shoes. I’m feeling a bit stressed right now.
I’m a senior majoring in computer science, and in just a couple of months—plus a few weeks—I’ll be leaving campus for good. While I’m focused on finishing up my thesis and passing my classes, the uncertainty about what comes next is really starting to take a toll on me. I’ve even been having nightmares!
My biggest fear is the thought of being on my own. Throughout high school, I always knew the next step was going to college, but now I feel lost. I’ve applied for internships and research positions for the summer, but I’m still waiting to hear back. And with so many stories about how difficult it is to find even basic jobs right now, I’m really worried. If I can’t land a job—whether it’s for the summer or after graduating—I might have to move back in with my parents, which would be tough since our home environment can be pretty toxic. I want to avoid that situation at all costs.
Another concern is my roommate. We have a unique bond—more than just best friends but not quite dating (we’re both part of the LGBTQ community, so you could say it’s a lavender couple situation, haha). I care a lot about stability, while he prefers to keep his options open. I’m anxious that our plan to get an apartment together in November might fall apart if he changes his mind. I know the common advice is to just find another roommate or live alone, but I’ve worked hard to manage my attachment issues, and the thought of transitioning from having my friends around to being completely alone is really daunting. I’m hoping he’ll be a constant in my life, but I can’t take that for granted—anything could happen! I also want to build my own circle of friends and not just rely on his connections.
So, sorry for the lengthy post, but does anyone have advice on how to navigate this period of uncertainty? Dealing with constant stress, headaches, and nightmares is just not sustainable for me. Thanks in advance!
Hey there! First off, congratulations on nearing graduation! That’s a huge accomplishment, and it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed right now. Transitioning into post-grad life can definitely be scary, but it’s also a time full of potential and opportunity.
It’s understandable to worry about your job prospects, especially in a competitive field like computer science. Remember, it’s not uncommon for graduates to face challenges in finding their first positions. Give yourself some grace—many people don’t land a job immediately after graduation. Keep applying and consider reaching out to your professors or alumni in your network for advice and potential job leads. You might be surprised by the connections you can make.
As for living with your roommate, it sounds like you have a really special bond! It’s great to want that stability, but also remember that relationships can evolve as you both enter this new phase of life. Communication is key—talk openly with him about your concerns and how you’re feeling. This way, you can both set expectations and perhaps even come up with a backup plan together.
In terms of building your own support system, consider exploring clubs or networking events related to your interests. You might find that there are others out there in the same boat, which could help ease that fear of being alone. The connections you make now can turn into friends and support as you venture into this new chapter.
Finally, take care of your mental health. Stress headaches and nightmares are your body’s way of signaling that it needs a break. Make sure to carve out time for activities that help you relax and recharge, whether it’s reading, exercising, or spending time with friends.
Remember, the uncertainty of post-grad life is something so many people have faced, and it often leads to unexpected and rewarding experiences. You’ve got this! Keep pushing forward, and it’s okay to lean on your support system when you need to. Best of luck, and take care!