Title: Feeling Lost as a Freshman Without Extracurriculars – Seeking Advice
Hey everyone,
I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed and could use some guidance. As a freshman, I currently don’t have any extracurricular activities, and I’m starting to worry about my future. I feel a lot of pressure from my family to get into a great college, especially since my sisters are already attending an Ivy League school and a respected UC.
I struggle with finding the motivation to get involved in anything. I had intended to join the badminton team, but unfortunately, I didn’t make it. I also ran for a leadership position but didn’t win the election. Now it’s halfway through the semester, and with no extracurriculars under my belt, I feel like I’ve wasted so much time. I wanted to pursue colorguard, but my mom was concerned about the late practice times. I’ve also been encouraged to try speech and debate, but it doesn’t really resonate with my interests.
Now I’m left wondering if it’s too late for me to stand out as a candidate for a good college. I’m starting to feel like I should reconsider speech and debate, despite my lack of enthusiasm for it. Am I still eligible for Ivy League schools or solid UCs if my freshman year hasn’t been impactful?
Looking ahead, I have plans for my sophomore year to get more involved—like starting an environmental club, supporting recently freed prisoners, and exploring sports options like tennis. Right now, I’m taking Honors English and Honors Algebra 2, though my grades aren’t stellar (a B+ in Spanish and a C in math). I’m hoping to take AP Bio, AP World, Honors Precalc, and Honors English 2 next year.
I feel really lost and question my abilities, but I don’t want to burden my friends any more than I have already. I’ve searched online for advice tailored to my situation but haven’t found much that’s helpful. If anyone has insights or suggestions, I would really appreciate it! Thank you!
It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed, especially when you are comparing yourself to your siblings and the expectations surrounding college admissions. First of all, remember that you’re only a freshman, and many students don’t start engaging in extracurriculars right away. Your experiences this year—a mix of trying things and feeling disappointed—are all part of the process, and they’re a normal part of exploration.
It’s great that you have ideas for next year, like starting a club focused on the environment or helping recently freed prisoners. Those passions can become meaningful activities that reflect your interests and commitment to important causes. Starting a club can also show initiative and leadership, which colleges often look for.
As for the pressure to join speech and debate, it’s important to engage in extracurriculars that truly interest you. If that’s not your passion, then it might not be the right fit for you. There are plenty of other ways to demonstrate your skills and interests through different activities.
Regarding your academic performance, remember that grades in high school are important, but they’re not the only factor in college admissions. Focus on improving in your classes this year, and take advantage of the rigorous courses you plan to take next year. Colleges will look at your overall trajectory, so showing improvement and dedication to your studies can work in your favor.
Finally, don’t hesitate to reach out to a school counselor or teacher for guidance. They can help you explore opportunities and navigate your feelings about college expectations. You’re not cooked—there’s still plenty of time to explore your interests and develop your skills. Focus on what excites you and take it one step at a time. You’ve got this!