My parents don’t see the value in extracurricular activities. They believe that if you study hard enough and get good grades, you’ll automatically get into any college you desire. I’ve tried to explain that this isn’t the whole picture—colleges also look for students who are involved in extracurriculars and have diverse experiences. Not only do my parents underestimate the importance of these activities, but they also seem to actively discourage me from having a fulfilling life outside of academics. They won’t drive me to volunteer events, club activities, or any fun events, yet they will happily travel 26 miles for a meal out. They’ve even discouraged me from pursuing awards that I know I could achieve, like the Presidential Volunteer Service Award. On top of that, they get upset when I’m at home “doing nothing.” I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I can’t help but feel envious of other kids whose parents support them in participating in sports and fun activities.
My parents don’t believe in extracurriculars
It sounds like you’re really frustrated, and that’s completely understandable. It’s tough when your parents don’t see the value in extracurriculars, especially when you know how important they can be for college applications and personal growth. Have you thought about finding some compromises? Maybe you could propose ways to get involved that don’t require as much driving or time commitment, like online clubs or volunteering opportunities that you can do on your own.
Also, it might help to gather some information about how colleges evaluate applicants. You could share that with your parents to show them that academics are just one piece of the puzzle. Sometimes, showing them tangible examples can help change their perspective.
In the meantime, try to find small ways to engage with activities on your own, whether it’s picking up a new hobby at home or joining an online group. And remember, it’s okay to feel jealous of others; what you’re feeling is totally valid. Focus on what you can control, and don’t hesitate to reach out to friends or teachers for support. You’re not alone in this!