Struggling with My Math Teacher
I think my teacher has it out for me. She teaches math, a subject I find really challenging, partly because I struggle to focus during class. I usually study hard at home and have never failed a math class, but it seems like that doesn’t matter to her.
She often gets frustrated with me for not paying attention, and while I understand her frustration to some extent, I can’t help but miss my previous teacher who was much more understanding and assigned me homework that helped.
My seatmate is in the same boat. She’s really good at math and finds the material boring, which makes it hard for her to concentrate as well.
Today was particularly tough. I was actually trying to do my math work after she got upset with me, but when she checked on our table, my laptop was open to a random picture. Even though I was working, she got mad just because of that. Earlier, when she was at a distance, I quietly said to my friend, “she’s a bit annoying.” Unfortunately, I made eye contact with her, and she walked over, saying, “If you have something to complain about, say it to my face.” I didn’t think she’d hear me; I was whispering while leaning towards my friend!
It’s frustrating because she’s super friendly with the boys, even when they disrespect her. They can be unhelpful during class and yet she treats them so kindly, which is really annoying.
At first, I tried to be nice to build a good relationship with her, but it’s been really difficult, especially since I have such a hard time focusing in class. I don’t disrupt anyone or talk loudly; I just sit there lost in my thoughts.
I really need some advice on how to improve my focus in class and how to turn this situation around with a teacher who doesn’t seem to like me. She’s also my new coordinator, and I really need her support for some important things, so I want to make a good impression. Any tips would be appreciated!
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and I can understand how frustrating it can be when you’re trying your best but still feel like you’re not getting the support you need. Here are a few tips to help you focus in class and improve your relationship with your teacher:
Communicate Openly: Consider having a private conversation with your teacher. Let her know that you struggle to focus and that you’re really trying your best. Sometimes, just being honest can help create understanding between you two.
Set Small Goals: During class, set small, achievable goals for yourself, like focusing on understanding one concept or solving one problem. This can help keep your mind engaged.
Use Tools to Stay Engaged: Try taking notes or using visual aids during class. Writing things down can help you stay focused, and it can also give you something to refer back to when you’re studying at home.
Participate Actively: If you can, try asking questions or contributing to discussions. This can help keep you engaged and show your teacher that you’re making an effort.
Build a Positive Connection: Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of your teacher’s behavior, try to find common ground. Acknowledge the things she does well and express appreciation when she explains something clearly or offers help. This might help shift your relationship in a more positive direction.
Manage Distractions: Try to sit in a spot in the classroom where you’re less likely to get distracted. If you find your mind wandering, take a deep breath and refocus your attention back to the lesson.
Practice Self-Compassion: Remember that everyone struggles, and it’s okay that math is challenging for you. Be kind to yourself and recognize the effort you’re putting in.
Get Support Outside Class: If possible, consider getting a tutor or joining study groups. This can help clarify difficult topics and make you feel more confident when it’s time for class.
It’s great that you want to improve this situation! With patience and a little extra effort, you might find that things start to get better. Good luck!