How should I handle a teacher who seems to dislike me?
A few months ago, I had to sign myself out of school because I wasn’t feeling well, but I still needed to return for a mandatory meeting. On my way out, I unexpectedly ran into a teacher who noticed me even though I hadn’t been in his class that day. Later, when I approached him about making up an assignment I received a 0/20 on, he responded in a passive-aggressive manner, asking if I had been on campus. In a moment of panic, I said no. He still gave me the assignment, but then the attendance office emailed him, making it sound like I was accusing him of not allowing me to make it up. He sent me a screenshot of their exchange, and I apologized, but he never responded.
Since that incident, he has been quite petty towards me. Just today, he acknowledged everyone in class with “thank you for being here” points, but I received a 0/10, which dropped my grade to a C. I realize I made a mistake, but it’s been nearly three months, and I just want to move on from this situation. His behavior makes me feel really awkward and uncomfortable, and while I’d consider dropping the class, it’s too late for that. What are my options?
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through this situation; it sounds tough. Here are a few steps you could consider to help address the issue with your teacher:
Reflect on the Situation: Take some time to think about what happened and how it might have been perceived by your teacher. Understanding his perspective can help you find a way to approach him.
Request a Private Conversation: If you feel comfortable, ask to meet with him privately. You could start the conversation by acknowledging that there’s been some tension and express your desire to resolve it. Try to keep a calm and respectful tone.
Apologize Again: Even though you’ve already apologized, reiterating your regret about the misunderstanding might help. Make it clear that you didn’t intend to accuse him of anything and that you genuinely appreciate his efforts as a teacher.
Stay Professional: Regardless of his attitude, maintain a professional demeanor. This can help de-escalate the tension and show that you are willing to move forward positively.
Focus on Your Grades: Talk to him about any concerns regarding your grades. Ask for specific feedback on how you can improve and make up any missed work or assignments. This might help shift the focus from personal feelings to your academic performance.
Seek Support: If the situation doesn’t improve after speaking with him, consider talking to a school counselor or administrator. They might have additional insights or be able to mediate the situation.
Stay Positive and Focused: Try to stay focused on your studies and what you can control. Surround yourself with supportive friends and classmates who can help during this stressful time.
Remember, teachers are human, too, and sometimes personal feelings can affect professional relationships. It’s great that you want to resolve this; good luck!