Do you think it’s appropriate for a teacher to speak negatively about a student to another student?
Recently, I discovered that my teacher assistant – who is generally well-liked but can be a bit harsh – was gossiping about me with another student. Is this acceptable behavior? Our school prides itself on being welcoming and kind, and the expectations around kindness can sometimes feel excessive. However, it’s really unsettling to see a teacher violate those standards. According to her, I only care about myself, constantly complain, and am immature. She also implied that I take advantage of people and hang out with “losers,” which is not only untrue but also hurtful, especially since she works with students who need extra support.
The worst part is that her comments led the student she was talking to to distance themselves from me. While I wasn’t particularly close to that person and found them toxic, I still believe this kind of behavior shouldn’t be tolerated in our school culture. Does anyone else feel the same way?
It’s completely understandable that you feel hurt and frustrated by what your teacher said. Teachers are supposed to model kindness and professionalism, and it’s disappointing when they don’t live up to that standard—especially when it negatively impacts students. Talking negatively about a student not only breaches trust, but it can also create a toxic environment that affects not just you, but others as well.
You’re right to question this type of behavior. Everyone deserves respect, and it’s important for teachers to be supportive and uplifting rather than critical and dismissive. It might be helpful to consider addressing the issue directly with her or bringing it up with a school counselor or another trusted adult. You have every right to express how this situation made you feel. It’s never acceptable for anyone, especially someone in a position of authority, to spread negativity about a student. You’re not alone in believing that this kind of behavior should be addressed.