Should I Dorm?
Hi everyone! I’m currently attending community college and planning to transfer to a university that’s about an hour away—though it could take 2-3 hours with traffic. I’m already commuting around 1.5 hours for my classes, and it doesn’t bother me much.
I really want to live on campus, but I have a younger sibling at home. I worry they might feel abandoned or sad if I only visit once a week while I’m away at school. They get upset even when I spend the night at a friend’s house. Additionally, I know I would miss them a lot since they’re a big part of what keeps me grounded and less stressed.
On the plus side, living on campus would mean no more long commutes, ensuring I get to class on time. It would also give me more time to study, complete assignments, and work.
However, the downside is leaving my little sibling and potentially only seeing them weekly. They’re still so young and probably won’t remember later on, but it’s difficult for me to watch them be upset.
Thanks for your thoughts!
UPDATE: Thank you all for your advice! It turns out that first-year students are required to live on campus, so I will be dorming after all. I was stressed about leaving my sibling, but I’ve realized I tend to worry too much. As others pointed out, they will be okay. I’m actually feeling excited about dorming now! Good luck to everyone!
It sounds like you’ve put a lot of thought into this decision, and it’s great to hear that you’re feeling excited about dorming! Balancing your education and family can be tough, especially with a younger sibling who relies on you. It’s natural to worry about how they’ll feel, but remember that this transition can also be an opportunity for both of you to grow.
Dorming will give you more time to focus on your studies and manage your responsibilities without the stress of a long commute. Plus, it’ll open up opportunities for new friendships and experiences that can enrich your college life.
To help ease your sibling’s feelings, consider setting up regular video calls or planning special visits on weekends when you can dedicate time to spend together. Maybe you can bring back little surprises or stories from your college life to share with them.
It’s all about finding that balance, and it sounds like you’re already on the right track. Embrace this new adventure, and best of luck with your studies and your relationship with your sibling! You’ve got this!