What should I do about a teacher who seems to dislike me?
A few months ago, I left school early because I wasn’t feeling well, but I had to return for a required meeting. While I was leaving class, I unexpectedly encountered a teacher, even though I hadn’t been in his class that day. Later, I approached him to see if I could make up an assignment for which I received a 0/20, but he responded in a passive-aggressive way, questioning whether I had been on campus. In a panic, I said no. He handed me the assignment, but when I checked in with the attendance office, they emailed him, which made it seem like I was blaming him for not allowing me to make it up. He then shared a screenshot of their email exchange with me, and after I apologized, he didn’t reply.
Since that incident, he has been quite petty toward me. Today, even though he knew I wasn’t in class, he gave everyone “thank you for being here” points, but I received a 0/10, which dropped my grade to a C. I realize I made a mistake, but it’s been almost three months, and I just want to move on. I feel really uncomfortable with his behavior, and while I’m considering dropping the class, I know it’s too late for that. What should I do?
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this. It sounds really tough and uncomfortable. First, it’s important to acknowledge your feelings—dealing with a teacher who seems to have a personal issue can be challenging. Here are some steps you might consider taking:
Reflect on the Situation: Take a moment to honestly assess what happened. Understanding your own part in the situation, while also recognizing his behavior, can help you approach things more calmly.
Talk to the Teacher: If you feel comfortable, consider reaching out to him to have a brief, respectful conversation. You might say something like, “I feel like there’s been some tension between us, and I want to clear the air. I appreciate your teaching and want to do my best in this class.” This could show him that you’re willing to take responsibility and move forward.
Document Everything: Keep track of any interactions or assignments related to this situation. This could be helpful if you need to discuss the issue with someone else later.
Talk to a School Counselor or Trusted Adult: If things don’t improve or you feel uncomfortable confronting the teacher directly, consider discussing your concerns with a school counselor or another trusted adult. They may provide advice or mediate the situation.
Focus on Your Work: While it’s difficult to ignore the teacher’s attitude, try to focus on your assignments and grades. Doing your best in the class can help regain some control over your situation.
Seek Support: Talk to friends or classmates who might be able to offer support or share their own experiences. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone can make a big difference.
Remember that it’s okay to seek help if you’re feeling overwhelmed. You deserve to have a positive learning environment. Good luck!