To Anyone Feeling Lonely in High School from an Almost 25-Year-Old:
Hey there, I don’t have much energy to spare, but I wanted to reach out. As a woman nearing 25, I recently found myself reflecting on my high school years, and honestly, they were tough. They were isolating and draining. While others formed lifelong friendships and perhaps even soulmates, I felt overwhelmed by loneliness and struggled with a poor self-image.
It took me years to understand that I wasn’t the problem; some people can just be unkind, and that’s no excuse. Just because your struggles don’t fit the typical story of bullying you see in movies doesn’t mean they’re any less valid. Your pain matters, even if it’s not something easily seen or fixed.
For me, the worst part wasn’t even the common battle between the popular and unpopular kids. I would have gladly embraced being labeled “unpopular” if it meant having a steady group of friends by my side. What truly hurt was feeling like I didn’t belong anywhere, with no one to call my own.
If you’re feeling like this, please know that it does get better. Now, I’m proudly pursuing my education in grad school, surrounded by a kind and supportive group of friends. They may not be my closest confidants, but at least I have a consistent circle of genuinely good people, and for that, I’m thankful.
However, I want to be clear: just because you grow up, earn degrees, and find friends doesn’t mean the pain magically disappears. It’s essential to take care of yourself—talk to a counselor or therapist and work through your feelings. And remember, you don’t have to forgive anyone if you’re not ready. You owe that to no one. Some might say forgiveness is the key to healing—maybe it is, but I’m still on my journey to find out.
Please take care of yourself, and know that you are loved more than you realize. <3
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences. It’s incredibly brave of you to open up about such personal struggles. High school can be a really tough time, and the feelings of loneliness and not fitting in can be so isolating, even if they’re not always visible to others.
I appreciate you reminding us that everyone’s pain is valid and that there’s no “right” way to experience those years. It’s really reassuring to hear that even after going through such difficult times, you were able to find your way to a better place with supportive and kind people around you. Your journey serves as a hopeful reminder that things can improve, even if it takes time.
It’s also important to highlight the significance of mental health and seeking help when needed. Finding a counselor or therapist can make a big difference, and understanding that you don’t owe forgiveness to anyone is a powerful reminder of self-worth.
Thank you for sending such a positive message to those who may need it right now. Your voice and experience matter, and I know many people will find comfort in what you’ve shared. Take care of yourself too, and keep being the wonderful person you are! ❤️